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The Prophet (S)
desired to have the °Aqd recited in the mosque and in the presence of the
people. Imām °Alī (as) joyfully went to the mosque and the Prophet (S) also
entered the mosque. The Muhājirīn and Anŝār gathered around them. The Prophet
(S) went on the minbar and after praising and thanking Allāh (SwT), said: “Oh
people! Know that Jibrā`il descended on me and brought a message from Allāh
(SwT) that the ceremony of the °Aqd of °Alī (as) has taken place in the
presence of the Angels in ‘Bait al-Ma`mur.’ Allāh (SwT) has commanded that I
perform this ceremony on earth and make you all witnesses.” At the point, the
Prophet (S) recited the °Aqd.
Then the Prophet (S)
said to Imām °Alī (as): “Get up and give a speech.” Imām °Alī (as) got to his
feet and after remembering and thanking Allāh (SwT) began his speech and expressed
his satisfaction and contentment at his marriage to Haďrat Fāťima (sa).
The people prayed for
him and said: “May Allāh (SwT) bless this marriage, and place love and
friendship in your hearts.”12
The wedding ceremony
took place on the 1st of Dhul Hijjah, 2 AH13 (or
6th of Dhul Hijjah, 2 AH)14, one month after the °Aqd.
Between the °Aqd and
the wedding ceremony, Imām °Alī (as) was shy to speak about his wife to the
Prophet (S). One day, his brother °Aqīl asked him: “Why don’t you bring your
wife to the house so that we can congratulate you for the occasion of your
wedding?” This topic reached the Prophet (S), who called Imām °Alī (as) and
asked him: “Are you ready to get married?”
Imām °Alī (as) gave a
positive response. The Prophet (S) said: “Insha-Allāh, tonight or tomorrow
night, I will make arrangements for the wedding.” At that time, he told his
wives to dress Haďrat Fāťima (sa) and to perfume her and to carpet her room so
as to prepare for the wedding ceremony.15
The Prophet (S) told
Imām °Alī (as): “There cannot be a wedding without guests.” One of the leaders
of the Anŝār named Sa°ad said: “I gift you a sheep,” and a group of the Anŝār
also brought some16 corn17, and some dried whey, oil and dates were also bought
from the bazār.
The meat was cooked
and the Prophet (S) with his purity took the responsibility of cooking for the
wedding, and with his blessed hands, mixed them (the ingredients) and began
preparing a type of °Arabic dish called Habīs or Hais.18
However, although the
food was prepared, the invitation was public. A large number took part and with
the blessings of the Prophet’s (S) hands, everyone ate and became full from the
food, and there was even some left over for the poor and needy; a dish was also
placed for the bride and groom.19
The Prophet (S) told
his wives to prepare a celebration for Haďrat Fāťima (sa) After food, the
ladies gathered around Haďrat Fāťima (sa) and the Prophet (S) helped her get on
his horse. Salmān al-Fārsī took hold of the horse’s reins and with the special
ceremony, brave men such as Hamza and a number of the family and maĥārim of
Haďrat Fāťima (sa) gathered around the horse with drawn swords. Many women
waited behing the bride and recited Takbir.
The horse began
moving, and the ladies began reciting Takbir and praises of Allāh (SwT). At
that time, one by one, they read beautiful hymns that had been composed, and
with splendour and joy, took the bride to the house of the groom. The Prophet
(S) also reached the group and entered the bridal chamber.
He requested a dish of
water, and when that was brought, he sprinked some on Haďrat Fāťima’s (sa)
chest and told her to do Wuďū and wash her mouth with the rest of the water. He
sprinkled some water on Imām °Alī (as) as well and told him to do Wuďū and wash
his mouth.
The Prophet (S) then
took Haďrat Fāťima’s (sa) hand and placed it in the hand of Imām (as) and said:
“Oh °Alī! May you be blessed; Allāh (SwT) bestowed on you the daughter of the
Prophet (S) of Allāh (SwT), who is the best of women (of the world).” He then
addressed Haďrat Fāťima (sa) and said: “Oh Fāťima, °Alī is from the best of
husbands.”20
He then recited a Du°ā
for them: “Oh Allāh, make them familiar (close) to each other! Oh Allāh, bless
them! And place for them blessings in their life.”
As he was about to
leave, he said: “Allāh has made you and your offspring pure (ritually clean). I
am a friend of your friends, and an enemy of your enemies. I now bid you
farewell and deposit you with Allāh.”21
The next morning, the
Prophet (S) went to see his daughter. After that visit, he did not go to their
house for three days, but went on the fourth day.22
On the wedding night
of Haďrat Fāťima (sa), Asma bint Omaīs (or Umme Salama) who was among the
women, asked permission from the Prophet (S) if she could stay near Fāťima so
as to carry out any needs she may have.
She said to the
Prophet (S): “When the time of the death of Khadīja came in Makkah, I was next
to her and saw that Khadīja was crying. I said to her: “You are the ‘mistress
of the women of the worlds’ and the wife of the Prophet (S) and despite this
you are crying whereas Allāh (SwT) has given you the good tidings of heaven?”
Khadīja (sa) replied: “I am not crying because of death; rather I am crying for
Fāťima who is a small girl and women on their wedding night need a woman from
their relatives and close ones (maĥram) who will tell them their hidden
secrets, and I am afraid that that night, my dear Fāťima will not have anyone.”
Then I told Khadīja
(sa) that, “I swear to my God that if I stay alive until that day, on that
night I will stay in that house in your place.” Now I would like permission from
you that you excuse me so that I can keep my promise.” Upon hearing this, the
Prophet (S) started crying and gave me permission to stay and prayed for me.23
At
this point it is necessary to take a look at what state the ‘mistress of the
women of the worlds’, Haďrat Fāťima (sa) had on the night of her wedding, and
how she started her life with her husband, Imām °Alī (as) the wedding night,
Imām °Alī (as) Haďrat Fāťima (sa) upset and in tears, and asked her why she was
in this state.
She
replied: “I thought about my state and actions and remembered the end of life
and my grave; that today I have gone from my father’s house to your house, and
another day I will go from here to the grave and the Day of Judgement
(Qiyāmat). Therefore, I swear by you to Allāh (SwT); come let us stand for
Ŝalāt so that we can worship Allāh (SwT) together in this night.”3
The
following A°māl are recommended for this night4:
1. Try to be in Wuďū for as much of the night as possible, and especially during the amaals below.
2. Begin by praising Allāh (SwT), then say Allāhu Akbar (أللهُ أكَبر), followed by a Ŝalawāt (أللهم صلى على محمّد و آل محمّد).
1. Try to be in Wuďū for as much of the night as possible, and especially during the amaals below.
2. Begin by praising Allāh (SwT), then say Allāhu Akbar (أللهُ أكَبر), followed by a Ŝalawāt (أللهم صلى على محمّد و آل محمّد).
3.
Recite a two Rak°at Ŝalāt, with the intention of ‘Mustaĥab Qurbatan IlAllāh
(SwT)’ [a recommended prayer, seeking the pleasure of Allāh (SwT)], followed by
a Ŝalawāt.
4.
Recite the following Du°ā, followed by a Ŝalawāt. First the groom should recite
it, after which the bride should say: Ilāhī Amīn [May Allāh (SwT) accept this].
أَللٌّهُمَّ
ارْزُقْنِي إِلْفَهَا وَ وُدَّهَا وَ رِضَاهَا وَ رَضِّـنِي بِهَا ثُمَّ اجْمَعْ
بَيْنَـنَا بِأَحْسَنِ اجْتِمَاعٍ وَ أَسَرِّ ائْتِلاَفٍ فَإِنَّكَ تُحِبُّ
الْحَلاَلَ
وَ تَكْرَهُ الْحَرَام.
“O Allāh (SwT)! Bless me with her
affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her, and
bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely
You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.”5
5. Even if a couple are not intending to
conceive on the wedding night, it is recommended that the following Du°ās are
recited for righteous children (whenever they are conceived):
a. The groom should then place his right palm on the bride’s forehead facing Qibla and recite:
a. The groom should then place his right palm on the bride’s forehead facing Qibla and recite:
أَللٌّهُمَّ
بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا وَ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْـتُهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ
لِي مِنْهَا وَلَداً فَاجْعَلْهُ مُبَارَكاً تَقِيًّا مِنْ شِيعَةِ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
وَ لاَ تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهِ شِرْكاً وَ لاَ نَصِيباً.
“O
Allāh! I have taken her as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by
Your words. Therefore, if you have decreed for me a child from hver, then make
him/her blessed and pious from among the followers of the family of Muĥammad;
and do not let the Satan have any part in him/her.”6
b.
The following Du°ā should also be recited:
أَللٌّهُمَّ
بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا وَ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا. أَللٌّهُمَّ
اجْعَلْهَا وَلُوداً وَدُوداً لاَ تَفْرَكُ تَأْكُلُ مِمَّا رَاحَ وَ لاَ تَسْأَلُ
عَمَّا سَرَحَ.
“O
Allāh! I have made her lawful for myself with Your words, and I have taken her
in Your trust. O Allāh! Make her fertile and devoted.”7
6. The groom should wash the bride’s feet
and sprinkle that water in all the four corners of the room and house. Allāh
(SwT) will remove 70,000 types of poverty, 70,000 types of blessings will enter
the house and 70,000 blessings will come upon the bride and groom. The bride
will be safe from insanity, ulcers and leprosy.8
Although it is true this marriage is a divine marriage, however
Lady Fatimah's (sa) character and in general women rights in Islam for choosing
their own husbands provided that Prophet Muhammad (saw) not proceed to this act
without having his daughter's word in this matter. Imam Ali (A.S) went to the
Prophet (S.A.W.W.) and asked for Hazrat Fatima's hand in marriage. Umm Salma,
one of the wives of the Prophet (S.A.W.W), was present and she reports:
"The Prophet (S.A.W.W) smiled, kept Imam Ali waiting, and went to his daughter and said, "you know how near Ali is to us and how dear he is to Islam.
I have asked Allah to give you in marriage to the best of his creatures and the most beloved to Him. Ali has his wishes to marry you, what do you say?'
Hazrat Fatima (S.A) did not reply but from her face the Prophet knew that she was happy about it.
The Prophet (S.A.W.W) said, "Allahu Akbar. Her silence means her approval." When Prophet Muhammad (saw) discussed Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib's (as) proposal to her, he clearly explained his characteristics. Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as), a man whose worldly goods and wealth were to the least, and who did not meet the criteria for marriage that the pre-Islamic era required of him, had however a character that was full of faith and religious virtues. This time, unlike the previous cases Lady Fatimah (sa) agreed. Once Prophet Muhammad (saw) saw Lady Fatimah's (as) agreement in marriage, he asked Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as) if he has anything to place as his wife's dowry.
"The Prophet (S.A.W.W) smiled, kept Imam Ali waiting, and went to his daughter and said, "you know how near Ali is to us and how dear he is to Islam.
I have asked Allah to give you in marriage to the best of his creatures and the most beloved to Him. Ali has his wishes to marry you, what do you say?'
Hazrat Fatima (S.A) did not reply but from her face the Prophet knew that she was happy about it.
The Prophet (S.A.W.W) said, "Allahu Akbar. Her silence means her approval." When Prophet Muhammad (saw) discussed Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib's (as) proposal to her, he clearly explained his characteristics. Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as), a man whose worldly goods and wealth were to the least, and who did not meet the criteria for marriage that the pre-Islamic era required of him, had however a character that was full of faith and religious virtues. This time, unlike the previous cases Lady Fatimah (sa) agreed. Once Prophet Muhammad (saw) saw Lady Fatimah's (as) agreement in marriage, he asked Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as) if he has anything to place as his wife's dowry.
Imam
Ali ibn Abi Talib (as) replied, "May my parents be sacrificed for you, you
are well aware that my belongings are nothing more than a sword, a shield, and
a Camel."
Holy
Prophet Muhammad (saw), who believed a small dowry to increase a woman's value
as opposed to a large one, replied, "You are correct. You will need your
sword for battles with the enemies. And with your Camel you must water the palm
trees and travel with it on your trips. Thus you can only give your shield as
her dowry."
Holy
Prophet Muhammad (saw) ordered to sell Imam Ali's (as) shield. He divided its
money into three sections. He gave a part of it to Hazrat Bilal (ra) to
purchase a decent perfume, and he spent the other two to purchase some
household items and clothes for Lady Fatimah (sa). Obviously with the money
from the shield the material that could be bought were very cheap and simple!
History
has recorded the material that were purchased with the money consisted of these
items: a large scarf for four Dirham, material for a dress for seven Dirham, a
bed made of wood and leaves from a date palm, four pillows made from sheep skin
and filled with leaves from an aromatic plant, a woolen curtain, a small mat,
one hand mill, a leathern sac for water, one copper flat wash, a container for milking
the Camel, and a pitcher made from clay.
Lady
Fatimah's (sa) simple dowry and its usage for purchasing necessities of the
home can be the biggest lesson for decreasing our expenses and remaining
satisfied with what we are capable of purcProphet Mohammad(P.B.U.H)said "O Abul
Hasan(AS), the order of Allah(swt) has been served and I invite you to come to
the mosque so that this Aqd should be formalized on the earth as well among
witnesses."Such was the importance of this marriage that Allah(swt)
arranged the ceremony on Arsh and then Himself decided and recited the Nikah of
Imam al-Muttaqeen, Amir-ul-momineen Ali ibn Abi Talib(AS) with the leader of
the women of this world and in paradise Hazrat Fatima(SA).hasing.
THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY
The Prophet (S.A.W.W) performed the 'Nikah' ceremony in the mosque. This was on 1st Zilhaj and the marriage celebration also took place in the fourth heaven, at a place called 'Bait Al Mamur".
Both Sunni and Shia scholars have reported this in their books. Suyuti the famous Sunni writer says that the Prophet (S.A.W.W), while in the Mosque, said to Imam Ali (A.S), "Here is Gibrael informing me that Allah gave Fatima to you in marriage, and made forty thousand Angels to witness this marriage He (Allah) made the tree of Tuba to shed gems, rubies and jewellery.
The Houris then rushed to collect them..."
The actual manage took place after about a month from the time it was announced.
Imam AH got a house of his own from Harith Bin Noaman. He then invited all people of Medina to the marriage lunch where cooked meat, bread and butter were served. Everybody ate as much as he or she wanted. There was still food left. This was then distributed to the people to take them home.
The Prophet (S.A.W.W) performed the 'Nikah' ceremony in the mosque. This was on 1st Zilhaj and the marriage celebration also took place in the fourth heaven, at a place called 'Bait Al Mamur".
Both Sunni and Shia scholars have reported this in their books. Suyuti the famous Sunni writer says that the Prophet (S.A.W.W), while in the Mosque, said to Imam Ali (A.S), "Here is Gibrael informing me that Allah gave Fatima to you in marriage, and made forty thousand Angels to witness this marriage He (Allah) made the tree of Tuba to shed gems, rubies and jewellery.
The Houris then rushed to collect them..."
The actual manage took place after about a month from the time it was announced.
Imam AH got a house of his own from Harith Bin Noaman. He then invited all people of Medina to the marriage lunch where cooked meat, bread and butter were served. Everybody ate as much as he or she wanted. There was still food left. This was then distributed to the people to take them home.
Hazrat Fatima's Dowry
The Prophet (S.A.W. W) limited this to 500 dirhams. After this event all marriages that took place in the house of the Prophet (S.A.W.W.) were limited to this amount.
The marriage of Hazrat Fatima (S.A) was carried out under the personal supervision of the Prophet (S.A.W.W) himself He made sure that his daughter got the most necessary things and at a very small cost. The things which she took to her husband's house are:
• one shirt (costing 7 dirhams)
• one veil (costing 4 dirhams)
• a black piece of velvet cloak made at Khaiber
• a bedspread with ribbons
• two mattresses of Egyptian canvas (one filled with palm fibres another with wool)
• four pillows made from hide and stuffed with sweet smelling plains - made from Taif
• a thin woollen screen
• a stone bowl for drinking water or you hurt
• a bowl for storing water
• a pitcher
• a porcelain mug
• pieces of skin
• a cotton cloth
• a waterskin
Seeing these things the Prophet (S.A.W. W) said, "Oh Allah bless them (the bride and the bridegroom). For they are of those people most of whose belongings are made of natural materials."
Although the marriage of Hazrat Fatima (S.A) was done on a simple level with less costs, no other marriage was as blessed as this one for the following reasons:
- Allah Himself decided as to who was to marry her. For according to the Sunni scholar, Tabrani, The Prophet (S. A. W. W) is reported to have said to his daughter Fatima, "Surely, Allah has examined people of the earth and chose your Father to be the Prophet (S.A.W.W). He, then examine them and chose your husband, then revealed to me that I give you to him in marriage and appoint him my successor."
- The marriage ceremony was held not only on this earth but also in the heavens by Allah's orders.
Allah gave Hazrat Fatima (S.A), as wedding gift, the authonty to
speak for sinners on the day of judgement and save them from hell fire.
The occasion of Hazrat Fatima’s marriage can be summarized in a very good way in the words of the Prophet's well known companion, Jabbir B. Abdullah Ansar who is reported to have said, "We were present at Fatima's and Ali's (A.S.) wedding ceremony and indeed we have not seen any ceremony better than that one ..."
The occasion of Hazrat Fatima’s marriage can be summarized in a very good way in the words of the Prophet's well known companion, Jabbir B. Abdullah Ansar who is reported to have said, "We were present at Fatima's and Ali's (A.S.) wedding ceremony and indeed we have not seen any ceremony better than that one ..."
The above event has been
mentioned in various other books as follows:- Muaraj an-Nabuwwah- Al Asaba fee
Tameez as-Sahaba- Sawaeq-e-Muharriqa bu Ibn-e-Hajr Makki- Al Bayan wal Bateen
by Allam Jaahiz- Nuzhat-ul-Majalis by Allama Abdur Rehman Safori- Riyaz
un-Nazrah fee Manaqib-ul-Ashra by Allama Muhib Tabr
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