have sex more than twice a week,Improves cardiovascular health

http://www.ehow.com/how_5288242_keep-relationship-exciting-new.html

Make love often. This is a tough one to do in a relationship because work, kids, and household chores don't always leave time and energy for sex with your partner. But, sex is important in a relationship and should be made a priority. Try making a plan to make love at least twice a week: once during the week and once on the weekend. Stick to this as best you can so that you and your partner know that when to expect intimacy. While this isn't always romantic, you can make it so by turning on some soft music, lighting candles, or taking a bubble bath together. Making love will keep you and your partner close and keep the relationship new and exciting. Without sex, a relationship becomes dull and partners become more like roommates than lovers. It's important to make sex a priority so that both partners feel a connection to one another. By making love at least twice a week, you'll keep the spark a live and help your relationship to become exciting and new again.

 pls read http://www.speakingtree.in/slideshow/benefits-of-daily-sex/benefits-of-daily-sex

Boredom settles in:The seven year itch isn't a myth. There are many couples who suffer from boredom. Content writer Dipti Das 

says, "I am married for three years and we have started taking each other for granted. Sex has totally taken a backseat. Even on nights when I feel like having sex, I am too weighed to ask. So I simply drop the idea and hit the bed."  It's important to give yourself a break once in a while

 

By the time the two of you hit the sack, you are ready to doze off. Very often, sex takes a backseat. Where previously you couldn't keep your hands off each other when together, now you see the frequency of sex dwindling. But have you ever analysed the reasons for a sharp fall in sex?

 Touch her now & then :  'TOUCH' plays a vital role in upping the sex urge." GIVE HER A FULL BODY MASSAGE

. Share a hobby or start doing some fun activity together.Watch a movie together on saturday nights.

Pay enough attention: Stop being a couch potato or a workaholic when at home. Dump your remote control and laptop and indulge in some pleasure moments with your spouse. Remember, communication is the key. The farther you let yourself go, the distance will keep on increasing. Try a new activity or challenge your spouse - you may see them in a new light.

Dr Amita Mishra, a sex and relationship expert suggests, "When it's about being experimental, try out just about everything. From the sofa to the floor, living room to the kitchen, bathtub to the garden, let your imagination take over completely

Improves cardiovascular health 
A recent study says that men who have sex more than twice a week, had a lesser risk of getting a heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month. 

You sleep better 
Notice that just after you make love, the sleep you get thereafter is much more relaxed. Getting a good night's sleep will make you feel alert and healthy overall. 

Proper SEX methods. 

The missionary position. Or man-on-top is said to be the position that's best for getting pregnant. This is because this particular position allows for the deepest possible penetration, making it possible for the sperm to get deposited closest to the cervix. place her legs over your shoulders. This shortens her vaginal canal, so your penis feels bigger inside her.

Raise the hips. Elevating the hips, which can be done by placing a pillow behind her, can also be helpful because this exposes the female cervix to as much semen as the male can release. 

Orgasms. Finally, while this has nothing to do with sexual positions, there are also researches that suggest the importance of the female orgasm in conceiving. According to studies, female orgasm leads to contractions that could push sperm up into the cervix. The lesson: have fun while trying to conceive. 

Q: Is male infertility a serious threat?

A: It accounts for 40 per cent of all infertility, primarily due to sperm defects. Sometimes this is brought on by external factors like tight innerwear, very hot baths, smoking, exposure to radiation and toxic chemicals. Sometimes there's a physiological basis-diabetes, hypothyroidism or genetic aberrations.

Q: What about infertility in women?

A: I see many young women who show signs and symptoms of polycystic ovaries, a condition associated with metabolic disorders and obesity. From job pressure to vehicular pollution, postponing parenthood to sexual liberation, fast food to sedentary lifestyle, all have been linked to infertility.

Conception Timeline

A: woman's fertility peaks between age 27 and 34. That's the best time to have the first baby. The best time to get pregnant? Watch out for the narrow window of time during ovulation, two weeks into the menstrual cycle. The life of a human egg is about 36 hours, while a sperm can survive in a woman's body for about 48 hours.

30% more chances of conception every month if a couple engages in unprotected sex at least two times a week.

Myth : Daily sex increases chances of pregnancy

Reality : No it doesn't. It may, in fact, bring down sperm count on the day of ovulation.

Source: The Complete Guide to Becoming Pregnant. Dr. Firuza R. Parikh. Random House India. 2011

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Bring 'sex' back into your marriage!

 LIFE STARTS AFTER FIFTY

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Openness about sexual matters has been lost over time, and discussions about sex have become taboo. At the time of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), the Sahabah were not too shy to ask about all affairs, including sexual matters, so as to know the teachings of Islam in these matters.

http://www.zawaj.com/straight_talk.html

http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/

Muslims have deviated from the path shown to them by their religion and adopted the path of self-interest and evil. On the other hand, all good values that were propagated by Prophet Muhammad (SAW) are adopted and implemented by today’s western world.


Our wives belong to Allah and not our properties that we own the way we own cars and houses. Our wives are amaana, a trust for us to look after to gain Allah’s pleasure. Any man who doesn’t fulfil this trust doesn’t deserve a wife.
.A woman's largest erogenous zone is her mind, She wants passion, Effort, Attention from you.Tell her clearly You love her. Give her a hug each day.

SEX is a major sin (HARAAM) outside marriage(ZINA) and it is haraam to deny  sexual pleasure to each other in married life. 

There are certain times when sex is more recommended:

1. When a women desires it from her husband.⁴⁹

2. When one is attracted to another woman.

It is narrated from Imām as-Ŝādiq (as): “Any person that sees a woman and is attracted to her must go to his wife and engage in sexual intercourse with her, because that which the other woman has, the wife also has, and one must not give Satan a way into one’s heart.

And lets not forget even our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was a man as well:

Jabir reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) saw a woman, and so he came to his wife, Zainab, as she was tanning a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them: The woman advances and retires in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart.[Book 8 Hadith 3240] 'The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)' of Sahih Muslim.

In Islam it is advisable for a man to have sex with his wife AT LEAST once every week on friday morning before jumma prayer.

Islam prohibits only two things between husband and wife:

1- Intercourse when the woman is in menstruation period and afterbirth period.

2- Anal intercourse. It is a great sin for a man to have anal intercourse with his wife.

Other than the above two restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with ones wife any place, any time, and any how their hearts desire.

You can do anything with your wife.. Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 223:

223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.

There is absolutely no veil or purdah between the sacred relationship of a husband and a wife in Islam.

1. http://www.mydeenislam.com/how-to-make-love-to-your-wife-in-islam.html
2. http://www.authentictauheed.com/2011/07/112-bedroom-etiquettes-in-islam.html

3.https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas-and-shaheen-merali/chapter-1-the-wedding-night

Read more in http://www.authentictauheed.com/2011/07/112-bedroom-etiquettes-in-islam.html

Source of the article:; https://loveinshallah.com/2013/02/21/advice-clueless-about-my-wedding-night/

“When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman has needs.” — Ali ibn Abi Talib (as)

TRY TO PLEASE HER FIRST BY KISSING, MASSAGING etc. http://www.mydeenislam.com/how-to-make-love-to-your-wife-in-islam.html

Go very, very slow. I recommend you begin by massaging your wife. A massage is a great way to learn where your wife likes to be touched—and where you like to be touched too. Youtube is a great place to learn massage techniques and because Youtube blocks explicit images, most of the content is quite halal to view. 

Talk to your partner about engaging in  stimulating the clitoris manually during foreplay and before penetration.

Remember that it's not uncommon for your sex life to be less extraordinary than expected. a man's erection might not last long or it might come and go,he may also ejaculate outside before entering, Being patient and taking your time, talking clearly, and learning/practicing are the best ways to allow the two of you to enjoy this newfound intimacy together.

SOURCE: https://islamqa.info/en/193320

193320: Can she masturbate if her husband cannot satisfy her desire?

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly: 

The basic principle is that masturbation is haraam. Please see the answer to question no. 329

That is only permitted if a person fears that he may end up committing zina; no doubt the prohibition on zina is more emphatic, and it is more abhorrent and reprehensible. Hence it is permissible to commit the lesser of two evils so as to ward off the greater. 

Ar-Ruhaybaani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If a person, man or woman, masturbates with no need to do so, that action is haraam and he should be given a disciplinary punishment for it, because it is a sin. But if he does it because he fears falling into zina or homosexuality, or because he fears physical harm, then there is no punishment.

End quote from Mataalib Ooli an-Nuha Sharh Ghaayat al-Muntaha, 6/226 

Al-Mirdaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:  

We learn two things from this: 

1.     That masturbation is not permissible except in cases of necessity

2.     The ruling for women on that matter is the same as the ruling for men, if a woman fears falling into zina. 

This is the correct view, as stated in al-Furoo‘.

End quote from al-Insaaf, 10/252 

Secondly: 

What the husband must do is give his wife her rights to kind treatment. One of the most important matters to which he must pay attention in that regard is keeping her chaste so that she will not look at other men, and giving her her rights in matters of intimacy as much as possible, even if that means using aphrodisiacs and paying attention to nutrition. 

If the husband reaches climax quickly, before his wife is satisfied, then he has to try hard to stimulate her first, even if that is with his hand or body, and not start to have intercourse until she is ready for that, and then she can reach climax through intercourse. 

If the question is about masturbation with the hand, what difference is there between the husband’s hand or her own hand? Why can’t he do that for her, and why should she do that herself? 

What we think is that the husband should do that, and it is better if it is before he has intercourse with her, then if she needs anything else, he can stimulate her again after having intercourse, so that her needs will be met. 

There is nothing wrong with him consulting a specialist doctor, if he is suffering from any kind of problem. 

And Allah knows best.

Most women report masturbating at least once a week, according to a new study in the Journal of Sex Research. The truth of the matter is far more women receive erotic or sensual massages than the public is aware of.

HOW TO DO  IT: FEMALE MASTURBATION

Apply water-based lubricant or coconut oil  or cold cream over your hairy area of vagina all way down to anus. Nearly 50 percent of men and women who have used lubricant say that it makes it easier to have an orgasm Place your  hand over your hairy vaginal lips and  slide from  top upto  your anus. Start by focusing on the hairy vulva, which is the outside visible area of the vagina.Finally, gently slide your  forefinger  down the sides of the clitoris and rotate around for about 10 strokes. Massage the head of the clitoris in circular motions using your forefinger and thumb.NO NEED  TO PUSH YOUR  FINGER  INSIDE  YOUR VAGINAL CANAL WHICH MANY PEOPLE SUGGEST.  REMEMBER, YOUR IMPORTANT POINT IS THE CLITORIS.

Masturbating once or twice a week is very common.

ITS ALL ABOUT HER CLITORIS.

Article one : http://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/reasons-women-should-masturbate_n_6172092

Article two:; http://health.allwomenstalk.com/health-benefits-of-female-masturbation

Article three::  https://www.womenshealthnetwork.com/sexandfertility/health-benefits-of-masturbation.aspx

Article  four: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a36484/benefits-of-masturbation/

Article five: http://sex.sofeminine.co.uk/sex-sexuality/female-masturbation-benefits-10-reasons-you-should-touch-yourself-mor-s704536.html

Article six:; http://www.webmd.com/women/features/female-masturbation-5-things-know#1

Article seven:

https://sacredtantrictouch.com/healing-benefits-of-yoni-massage/

Article  eight:

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/yoni-massage

Article nine:

http://healthise.com/care-sexual/health-benefits-of-female-masturbation/

premature ejaculation in man..early discharge..

1.Ejaculates before the penis enters the vagina
2. During the time of penetration into the vagina
3. Immediately after the penis enters into the vagina.

The researchers behind the report say premature ejaculation is a natural occurrence, especially among younger men and old man , and that those affected can learn to control their response to stimulation themselves without recourse to any drugs or therapies.

As many as one in three men may experience premature ejaculation during sex."Teens and men can understand their sexual response during masturbation and learn ejaculatory control without any drug therapy."

http://www.sciencealert.com/premature-ejaculation-isn-t-an-illness-and-shouldn-t-be-treated-study-suggests

premature ejaculation in man..early discharge..CONTROL

1.Massage his penis with mustard oil/ coconut oil/ Vaseline regularly so that he gets control over ejaculation

2. Masturbate one hour before having sex 

3. SEX POSITION SHOULD BE WOMAN ON TOP. Because when a man lies on bed, he can control his ejaculation.

Go Herbal

-Research literature supports a significant role of two herbs such as Ginseng and Pomegranate(ANAAR) in the treatment of erectile dysfunction.

–Ginseng has been found to increase the nitric oxide production thereby improving the blood flow. Pomegranate(ANAAR), a rich source of antioxidants has been found to be beneficial in preventing atherosclerosis

HERBAL TREATMENT:  GARLIC....Crush two or  three cloves  of  garlic  and eat this every  morning. Garlic  is  aphrodisiac,  Tonic for libido and to  maintain  erection.

You may buy DAMIAGRA from SBL in India.

https://homeomart.net/2016/06/13/sex-medicines-list-homeopathy-for-firm-erection-longer-duration/

Make love often. This is a tough one to do in a relationship because work, kids, and household chores don't always leave time and energy for sex with your partner. But, sex is important in a relationship and should be made a priority. Try making a plan to make love at least twice a week: once during the week and once on the weekend. Stick to this as best you can so that you and your partner know that when to expect intimacy. While this isn't always romantic, you can make it so by turning on some soft music, lighting candles, or taking a bubble bath together. Making love will keep you and your partner close and keep the relationship new and exciting. Without sex, a relationship becomes dull and partners become more like roommates than lovers. It's important to make sex a priority so that both partners feel a connection to one another. By making love at least twice a week, you'll keep the spark a live and help your relationship to become exciting and new again.

pls read http://www.speakingtree.in/slideshow/benefits-of-daily-sex/benefits-of-daily-sex

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Marriage-bad-for-your-sex-life/articleshow/7105662.cms

Researchers found that though, initially, couples can expect to have sex more than four times a week, after three years of life as man and wife, most couples are lucky to have sex just once every seven days.

In reality, sexual relationship is essential and a healthy part of a marriage. Sex needs commitment and connectivity and that is where most young people find themselves lacking the adequate energy or inclination," opines Dr Rajiv Anand, marriage counsellor. According to him, it is not the sexual act that loses novelty or attraction after marriage but the approach of the people involved.

So what's the solution? "If it's a case of physical fatigue, couples should engage in scheduled sex. They must plan weekend getaways or make arrangements to leave the child with a babysitter or relatives and plan a night out where they could probably get home early from work and then just concentrate on spending time with each other. If it's an issue of emotional distancing, communication is the only solution. Couples need to talk things out with each other in a non-toxic way," says Dr Minnu. 

Dr Anjali Chhabria, psychiatrist and psychotherapist opines that it is more important to get down to the root cause of the issue than just search for quick fix solutions. "Sex is an important part of marriage and the lack of it could indicate issues in the marriage. A declining sex life is a symptom, it's just the tip of the iceberg. One needs to find answers to why there is no sex? Is it because there is no chemistry in the relationship or is there no relationship at all? Are the partners too tired or stressed out? Does one partner feel that she or he is no longer attractive to the other? Is one's spouseattracted to someone else? If it's just boredom, couples need to make sex a priority. If they are too tired to have sex at night, do it in the morning. If lack of privacy is the issue, couple need to make time for themselves. Most importantly, couples need to tell each other what they want. Your partner is not a magician to magically figure out your wants and needs," she explains. 

rachel.fernandes@timesgroup.com

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/LIFE-STYLE/Relationships/Man-Woman/Sex-guide-according-to-your-age/moviereview/4807102.cms

20-something 
Most guys just can't stop dreaming about sex every couple of hours. At this age, girls are usually rebellious in their sexual imaginations. They share same-sex fantasies or want to try out bi-sexuality. A 2006 study of nearly 2000 people discovered that 76 per cent of women who slept with women reached orgasm (for women with men, the figure stands at 50 per cent).
The 20s are the time when young boys and girls are most experimental in their sexual positions. One in 10 people claims Tracey Cox have had a threesome in their early twenties.

Also, people in this age group have most likely visited a strip joint or a lapdancing club - with their friends or their better half.

30 something 
The 30s are a time to experiment, almost all 30-somethings claim to have had sex outdoors. Unlike the teens when making out was the most common form of sexual experimentation, most 30 somethings prefer having sex somewhere semi-public like the beach, in the garden or on a park bench in the darkness. There's something wildly erotic about these sexapades! Also, high on the 30 something popularity chart are having sex in the shower or in the bath tub.

Kinky pleasures also rate high as most 30 plus couples claim to be giving in to their fantasies of bondage, blindfolds and spanking on a weekend of debauchery.
This is also the time when women are most likely to befriend gay male pals. Straight women love gay men; gay men love straight women. Swedish research is confirming just why the two groups get along so famously - they both have symmetrical brains. Straight men and lesbians have asymmetrical brain hemispheres.

The 30s also mark the arrival of children in a married couple's life, so the sex drive naturally dwindles. But, Cox points out that during pregnancy, couples have sex four to five times a month. Most put the brakes on their sex lives for about seven weeks after delivery, but four months later are back to four or five times of sex a month. Cox says six months after delivery, the average couple goes back to having sex three to five times a month. But incase you don't fit the bill, remember getting disheartened ain't gonna help. Remember it's just a temporary period, so continue touching and cuddling and if your baby robs you of chances to have sex, indulge in quickies.

Most women says Cox in her book experience higher orgasm rates. Ninety per cent of women past 30 regularly experience orgasm, compared to just 23 per cent of younger women.

40 something 
Men in their 40s are more likely to experience erection problems. Also, this is the age when maximum number of men tend to be unfaithful. Also, men are more compelled in their 40s to watch more porn or indulge in sex chats. Women on the other hand get sexually very demanding, often being attracted to younger men.

If you thought the 40s were about low libido, think again, while 40-somethings maybe having less sex than ever, the thrust has shifted from how many times in a week to an emphasis on better quality. You are more sure of your sexual needs in this age group and thus more likely to insist on passion play as opposed to a mere making out session.

Signs of a perfect sex partner

"The idea of a perfect sex partner varies for different individuals, but some common traits like sexually active, experimental in bed, hygienically sound etc are a must, as they are the key for finding sexual bliss. 

 

Apart from good looks, a hot body and a heady sex drive, let's explore the less superficial elements of what makes a perfect sex partner. And if your partner bears these qualities in bed, you can unquestionably boast of having a great sex partner... 

1. Hygiene holds the key 
Everyone likes making love to a clean and tidy partner, so good hygiene holds great importance in a sexual relationship. Ensure that your partner is well manicured with a fully waxed body to ensure a higher comfort level. Too much hair on body makes it uncomfortable to enjoy each inch of your lover. So look out for a soft and clean skin in your partner complemented with a nice smell, as a bad body odour is a huge turn-off. 

Hot tip : "During sexual intimacy, everyone wants a hygienically fit partner, as this not only enhances the comfort level, but lets you enjoy the act more. So make sure you seem as fresh as if you have just stepped out of the shower before getting into bed. Sexual scents and aphrodisiacal fragrances are a good choice," recommends Dr. Devesh Roy, a sex therapist. 

2. Oral sex shouldn't be an issue 
You know what pleases you, so a wonderful partner to have in bed is one who doesn't hesitate going out of the way to give you that pleasure. If not routinely, your partner should be ready to please you orally as per their own mood and comfort level. While no one is perfectly adept at the oral act, but a partner who tries learning the little tricks to arouse you can surely add magic to your love life. 

Hot tip : "Don't wait for your partner to tell you or give hints each time they feel like experiencing oral pleasure, instead make it a part of the love making act. It is quite safe and enjoyable as the actual act, so don't be unwilling to go for it," states Dr. Deepak Gupta, a sex expert. 

3. Be an adventure lover 
Intimacy and passion gets killed if you have a boring partner, who is having sex for the sake of it. Ensure 

that he/she makes every effort to heighten the sensation by exploring their adventurous side. Having a partner who is open to trying new sexual pleasures is a definite bonus. Right from participating in dirty talks, taking chocolate baths with you, trying out new positions to indulging in naughty love games, he/she should be keen to try sex escapades that make them a perfect bedroom partner. 

Hot tip : "Like a weekend getaway gives you a much needed break, sex also can become monotonous after a sluggish period. To liven it up, you need to think out-of-the-box and try all kinds of sexual adventures that ensure a gratifying experience," shares Dr. Kirti. 

4. A sexy shape can do wonders 
Though weighty issues shouldn't come in way of your sexual pleasure, yet it's natural to look for a partner sans love handles or a bulging belly as an overweight partner can mar your sexual life. Being in top shape gives your body greater flexibility and accentuates your bedroom performance. If seeing your partner semi-naked makes you feel irresistible and you can't think of anything except sex, what else you can ask for! 

Hot tip : "Good body shape is always welcomed and what adds to your sex appeal is an appropriate dressing sense with which you can underline your positive features and gear up for a hot bedroom romp. To be a perfect partner in bed, try shedding the accumulated fat on your belly or butt area to boost your performance," suggests Dr. Roy. 

5. Propose newer things 
It's excellent to take charge in bed sans any inhibitions. But what makes sex even more special is to bring new-fangled sex ideas and implement them. A vivid imagination and voracious desires can contribute to healthy sexuality. With an avid sex lover who is willing to try arousing positions in bed, use sex toys, suggest new ways to climax, explore alternate seduction techniques and foreplay acts, the sex romp can be one of its kind. 

Hot tip : "Being innovative is good, but it is of no use if you confine this sexual knowledge just to yourself. Hence, be more forthcoming in your approach and propose new ways to improve your bedroom pleasure and perform actively," advices Dr. Kirti. 

6. Fantasy sharing does magic 
Communication holds the key to sexual pleasure, so a partner who is keen to discuss their wildest dreams and desires in bed can make sex a heavenly act. No partner can be tagged as sexually perfect until they are open about discussing their innate sexual preferences, as these tell the partner how they can perform. Look out for a partner who is not only open about their fantasies, but also invites you to share yours with a reassurance to fulfill them with ease. 

Hot tip : "If you cannot be outspoken about your sexual fantasies, you may resort to measures like penning them down or recording them on a tape. But ensure that it reaches your partner at the right time before you slip between the sheets," says Dr. Gupta

 

source :http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Life/Relationships/Man-Woman/articleshow/msid-4159623,curpg-2.cms