erectile dysfunction ---causes & treatment

A new study shows that the real secret to longer lasting sex really lies in your arteries and not just physical desire. 

"I think many men believe that desire sends a message to the brain and, hey presto, they get an erection. But what men see as a sign of virility is simply an issue of blood flow," the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Melbourne endocrinologist Dr Carolyn Allan as saying. 

"We now know that about 75 per cent of erectile dysfunction has a physical cause and in most cases it's likely to be artery damage," she added. 

"There are other physical causes too like nerve damage after surgery for prostate cancer, spinal cord injury or low testosterone levels - but with the average guy with erection problems who's also got borderline high blood pressure and high cholesterol, it's likely to be the arteries." 

Here's how it works: Erection requires blood vessels to expand by getting enough blood flow, but arteries compromised by high blood pressure, smoking or diabetes may have trouble doing this.

A firm erection also depends on the blood staying put long enough to make the erection last. 

What's less well known is that the same lifestyle habits that promote a healthy heart also promote healthy erections even into old age, said Allan. 

"There's always going to be some decline in sexual function with age. The difference is that while a fit older man with healthy arteries might have the occasional mild erection problem, an older man with damaged arteries will have more erectile dysfunction," she said. 

"But it's now not uncommon to see overweight men in their 20s and 30s who already have high cholesterol and metabolic problems. This means more young men who are at risk of heart disease – and potentially at risk of erectile dysfunction too." 

Research has found when men lost weight, stopped smoking and lowered their cholesterol levels the problem improved. 

"It may be that men will need a combination of lifestyle change and erection drugs like Viagra, Cialis or Levitra which work by improving blood flow to the penis," Allan said. 

Erectile dysfunction could also indicate increased risk of heart disease and undiagnosed diabetes. 

Although treatments for erectile dysfunction are available through GPs, some men feel awkward about talking to their own doctor and prefer the anonymity of a clinic," she said. 

"But they should be concerned about a clinic that doesn't ask questions about their general health." 

Read more: The secret to longer-lasting sex - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/health/The-secret-to-longer-lasting-sex/articleshow/7022050.cms#ixzz17F3tW42H

6 amazing health benefits of sex in a loving relationship

Majority of relationship therapists will tell you that not having sex with your partner frequently enough (at least twice a week) will make either or both of you unhappy, frustrated, depressed. Research shows people who have intercourse (not masturbation) at least once or twice a week are better placed to live longer due to the companionship, happiness and pleasure they both bring.

One passionate sex session and all your problems are gone.

1.      Sex helps your heart: Having sex at least twice a week will heavily reduce your chances of having a heart attack and helps maintain a healthy heart.

2.     Sex relieves stress and tension: This is because the feel good hormones – endorphins and oxytocin – are released during sex.

3.     Sex relieves pain: Studies show that after you orgasm, the hormones released will actually help stop your pain; headaches or any other body pains.

4.     Sex makes you feel and look great: The more sex you have the more hormones like testosterone and estrogen are released into the body and this helps keep your body looking young and fresh. If you want softer skin and shiny hair, then estrogen is your answer.

5.     Sex helps you sleep better : A relaxed sex session, which results in an orgasm, will release the hormone prolactin. This is the hormone that is heavily linked to a good night sleep.

6.     Sex fights disease: People who have frequent sex have a higher level of an antibody called immunoglobulin A (IgA). According to research, these antibodies help combat diseases 

7.       SOURCE OF THE ARTICLLE : https://tuko.co.ke/149926-health-benefits-of-sex-6-ways-that-sex-in-a-loving-relationship-can-amazingly-improve-your-health.html

5 best positions to get pregnant fast

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Getting pregnant maybe the easiest of all things, however, some couples do find it hard to conceive for several reasons, including weak or insufficient sperm count. 

When it comes to the best position to get pregnant, the general rule is that the male sperm must be deposited as near to the female cervix as possible. 

This has something to do with the life spans of the female egg and the male sperm. Once an egg is released from the ovary – a stage also known as ovulation – it begins its path down the fallopian tube to the uterus. A released egg typically survives for only 24 hours, while a sperm can last anywhere from three to five days in the female body. As such, the egg has to be as close to the egg as possible so they can meet and join before the egg dies. 

While not a lot of people will agree that the sexual positions have anything to do with getting pregnant, the logical inference is that it makes sense to assume the position that can help the sperm meet the egg in the shortest possible time. 

This is especially true when for couples who have problems or difficulty conceiving. Having said this, the first "best position to get pregnant" tip is to avoid positions that least expose the cervix to the male sperm, and that generally defy gravity such as sex while standing up, sitting down, or with the woman on top. When trying to conceive, it is best to limit the amount of sperm that flows back out of the vagina. 

The woman's hips should also be positioned in such a way that the sperm released is kept inside, giving it enough time to swim up to the female cervix. 

Consider the following positions instead: 

1. The missionary position. Or man-on-top is said to be the position that's best for getting pregnant. This is because this particular position allows for the deepest possible penetration, making it possible for the sperm to get deposited closest to the cervix. place her legs over your shoulders. This shortens her vaginal canal, so your penis feels bigger inside her.

2. Raise the hips. Elevating the hips, which can be done by placing a pillow behind her, can also be helpful because this exposes the female cervix to as much semen as the male can release. 

3. Doggy-style. The rear-entry position where the man enters the woman from behind is also a recommended position. In this position, sperm is also deposited closest to the cervix, thereby helping increase the chances of conception. 

4. Side-by-side. You can also try having intercourse while lying side by side. This position likewise causes the most exposure of the cervix to the male sperm. 

5. Orgasms. Finally, while this has nothing to do with sexual positions, there are also researches that suggest the importance of the female orgasm in conceiving. According to studies, female orgasm leads to contractions that could push sperm up into the cervix. The lesson: have fun while trying to conceive. 

Read more: 5 best positions to get pregnant fast - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/5-best-positions-to-get-pregnant-fast/articleshow/5317909.cms#ixzz17F3HYxUl

Q: Is male infertility a serious threat?

A: It accounts for 40 per cent of all infertility, primarily due to sperm defects. Sometimes this is brought on by external factors like tight innerwear, very hot baths, smoking, exposure to radiation and toxic chemicals. Sometimes there's a physiological basis-diabetes, hypothyroidism or genetic aberrations.

Q: What about infertility in women?

A: I see many young women who show signs and symptoms of polycystic ovaries, a condition associated with metabolic disorders and obesity. From job pressure to vehicular pollution, postponing parenthood to sexual liberation, fast food to sedentary lifestyle, all have been linked to infertility.

Conception Timeline

A: woman's fertility peaks between age 27 and 34. That's the best time to have the first baby. The best time to get pregnant? Watch out for the narrow window of time during ovulation, two weeks into the menstrual cycle. The life of a human egg is about 36 hours, while a sperm can survive in a woman's body for about 48 hours.

30% more chances of conception every month if a couple engages in unprotected sex at least THREE times a week.

Myth : Daily sex increases chances of pregnancy

Reality : No it doesn't. It may, in fact, bring down sperm count on the day of ovulation.

Source: The Complete Guide to Becoming Pregnant. Dr. Firuza R. Parikh. Random House India. 2011

Proper SEX methods. 

The missionary position. Or man-on-top is said to be the position that's best for getting pregnant. This is because this particular position allows for the deepest possible penetration, making it possible for the sperm to get deposited closest to the cervix. place her legs over your shoulders. This shortens her vaginal canal, so your penis feels bigger inside her.

Raise the hips. Elevating the hips, which can be done by placing a pillow behind her, can also be helpful because this exposes the female cervix to as much semen as the male can release. 

Orgasms. Finally, while this has nothing to do with sexual positions, there are also researches that suggest the importance of the female orgasm in conceiving. According to studies, female orgasm leads to contractions that could push sperm up into the cervix. The lesson: have fun while trying to conceive. 

First, some facts. Three quarters of women  need  clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm during intercourse , according to the study.

 67 percent of women like a technique the researchers call layering, which entails stimulating the clitoris through the hood that covers it (or other surrounding skin) during foreplay.

During intercourse, 72.6 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm.

 More on exactly how to touch her  https://www.omgyes.com/

Q: Is male infertility a serious threat?

A: It accounts for 40 per cent of all infertility, primarily due to sperm defects. Sometimes this is brought on by external factors like tight innerwear, very hot baths, smoking, exposure to radiation and toxic chemicals. Sometimes there's a physiological basis-diabetes, hypothyroidism or genetic aberrations.

Q: What about infertility in women?

A: I see many young women who show signs and symptoms of polycystic ovaries, a condition associated with metabolic disorders and obesity. From job pressure to vehicular pollution, postponing parenthood to sexual liberation, fast food to sedentary lifestyle, all have been linked to infertility.

Conception Timeline

A: woman's fertility peaks between age 27 and 34. That's the best time to have the first baby. The best time to get pregnant? Watch out for the narrow window of time during ovulation, two weeks into the menstrual cycle. The life of a human egg is about 36 hours, while a sperm can survive in a woman's body for about 48 hours.

30% more chances of conception every month if a couple engages in unprotected sex at least two times a week.

Myth : Daily sex increases chances of pregnancy

Reality : No it doesn't. It may, in fact, bring down sperm count on the day of ovulation.

Source: The Complete Guide to Becoming Pregnant. Dr. Firuza R. Parikh. Random House India. 2011

Indian penis size states between 4 to 5 inches

A study in 2005 stated indian erect penis size on avg is 4 to 5 inches. and the worldwide avg is 5.75 inchesHere is the rest of the world in 2005: 

Penis Size Around The World
Flacid length/erect length (in inches)
United States 3.4/5.0 
Germany - na/5.6 
Spain - na/5.3 
France 4.7/6.2 
Japan 3.1/5.1 
Brazil - na/4.8 
Italy 3.9/5.9 
Venezuela 3.7/5.0 
Mexico - na/5.9 
Greece - na/4.8 
India - na/5.0 
Saudi Arabia - na/4.9 
Chile - na/5.5 
Colombia 3.5 5.4 
Korea 2.7 3.7 
from wikipedia: 

Size

Results from LifeStyles condom manufacturer's study of penis size, displayed in inches. The data is listed by percentile (i.e. a male with a 6 in (15.24 cm) penis is greater in length than 70 percent of those measured.)

Main article: Human penis size 
While results vary across studies, the consensus is that the average erect human penis is approximately 12.9-15 cm (5.1-5.9 in) in length with a 95% confidence interval of (10.7 cm, 19.1 cm) or (4.23 in, 7.53 in).^[27][28][29] The typical girth or circumference is approximately 12.3 cm (4.84 in) when fully erect. The average penis size is slightly larger than the median size (i.e. most penises are below average in size). 
A research project, summarizing dozens of published studies conducted by physicians of different nationalities, shows that worldwide, erect-penis size averages vary between 9.6 and 16 cm (3.8 and 6.3 in). It has been suggested that this difference is caused not only by genetics, but also by environmental factors such as culture, diet, chemical/pollution exposure,^[30][31][32]etc. Endocrine disruption resulting from chemical exposure has been linked to genital deformation in both sexes (among many other problems). 
The longest officially documented human penis was a find by Doctor Robert L. Dickinson. It was 34.3 cm (13.5 in) long and 15.9 cm (6.26 in) around.^[33]

Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_average_size_of_indian_male_penis#ixzz16wHz11s3

http://www.ehow.com/how_5288242_keep-relationship-exciting-new.html

Make love often. This is a tough one to do in a relationship because work, kids, and household chores don't always leave time and energy for sex with your partner. But, sex is important in a relationship and should be made a priority. Try making a plan to make love at least twice a week: once during the week and once on the weekend. Stick to this as best you can so that you and your partner know that when to expect intimacy. While this isn't always romantic, you can make it so by turning on some soft music, lighting candles, or taking a bubble bath together. Making love will keep you and your partner close and keep the relationship new and exciting. Without sex, a relationship becomes dull and partners become more like roommates than lovers. It's important to make sex a priority so that both partners feel a connection to one another. By making love at least twice a week, you'll keep the spark a live and help your relationship to become exciting and new again.

have sex more than twice a week,Improves cardiovascular health

http://www.ehow.com/how_5288242_keep-relationship-exciting-new.html

Make love often. This is a tough one to do in a relationship because work, kids, and household chores don't always leave time and energy for sex with your partner. But, sex is important in a relationship and should be made a priority. Try making a plan to make love at least twice a week: once during the week and once on the weekend. Stick to this as best you can so that you and your partner know that when to expect intimacy. While this isn't always romantic, you can make it so by turning on some soft music, lighting candles, or taking a bubble bath together. Making love will keep you and your partner close and keep the relationship new and exciting. Without sex, a relationship becomes dull and partners become more like roommates than lovers. It's important to make sex a priority so that both partners feel a connection to one another. By making love at least twice a week, you'll keep the spark a live and help your relationship to become exciting and new again.

 pls read http://www.speakingtree.in/slideshow/benefits-of-daily-sex/benefits-of-daily-sex

Boredom settles in:The seven year itch isn't a myth. There are many couples who suffer from boredom. Content writer Dipti Das 

says, "I am married for three years and we have started taking each other for granted. Sex has totally taken a backseat. Even on nights when I feel like having sex, I am too weighed to ask. So I simply drop the idea and hit the bed."  It's important to give yourself a break once in a while

 

By the time the two of you hit the sack, you are ready to doze off. Very often, sex takes a backseat. Where previously you couldn't keep your hands off each other when together, now you see the frequency of sex dwindling. But have you ever analysed the reasons for a sharp fall in sex?

 Touch her now & then :  'TOUCH' plays a vital role in upping the sex urge." GIVE HER A FULL BODY MASSAGE

. Share a hobby or start doing some fun activity together.Watch a movie together on saturday nights.

Pay enough attention: Stop being a couch potato or a workaholic when at home. Dump your remote control and laptop and indulge in some pleasure moments with your spouse. Remember, communication is the key. The farther you let yourself go, the distance will keep on increasing. Try a new activity or challenge your spouse - you may see them in a new light.

Dr Amita Mishra, a sex and relationship expert suggests, "When it's about being experimental, try out just about everything. From the sofa to the floor, living room to the kitchen, bathtub to the garden, let your imagination take over completely

Improves cardiovascular health 
A recent study says that men who have sex more than twice a week, had a lesser risk of getting a heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month. 

You sleep better 
Notice that just after you make love, the sleep you get thereafter is much more relaxed. Getting a good night's sleep will make you feel alert and healthy overall. 

Proper SEX methods. 

The missionary position. Or man-on-top is said to be the position that's best for getting pregnant. This is because this particular position allows for the deepest possible penetration, making it possible for the sperm to get deposited closest to the cervix. place her legs over your shoulders. This shortens her vaginal canal, so your penis feels bigger inside her.

Raise the hips. Elevating the hips, which can be done by placing a pillow behind her, can also be helpful because this exposes the female cervix to as much semen as the male can release. 

Orgasms. Finally, while this has nothing to do with sexual positions, there are also researches that suggest the importance of the female orgasm in conceiving. According to studies, female orgasm leads to contractions that could push sperm up into the cervix. The lesson: have fun while trying to conceive. 

Q: Is male infertility a serious threat?

A: It accounts for 40 per cent of all infertility, primarily due to sperm defects. Sometimes this is brought on by external factors like tight innerwear, very hot baths, smoking, exposure to radiation and toxic chemicals. Sometimes there's a physiological basis-diabetes, hypothyroidism or genetic aberrations.

Q: What about infertility in women?

A: I see many young women who show signs and symptoms of polycystic ovaries, a condition associated with metabolic disorders and obesity. From job pressure to vehicular pollution, postponing parenthood to sexual liberation, fast food to sedentary lifestyle, all have been linked to infertility.

Conception Timeline

A: woman's fertility peaks between age 27 and 34. That's the best time to have the first baby. The best time to get pregnant? Watch out for the narrow window of time during ovulation, two weeks into the menstrual cycle. The life of a human egg is about 36 hours, while a sperm can survive in a woman's body for about 48 hours.

30% more chances of conception every month if a couple engages in unprotected sex at least two times a week.

Myth : Daily sex increases chances of pregnancy

Reality : No it doesn't. It may, in fact, bring down sperm count on the day of ovulation.

Source: The Complete Guide to Becoming Pregnant. Dr. Firuza R. Parikh. Random House India. 2011

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Bring 'sex' back into your marriage!

 LIFE STARTS AFTER FIFTY

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Openness about sexual matters has been lost over time, and discussions about sex have become taboo. At the time of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), the Sahabah were not too shy to ask about all affairs, including sexual matters, so as to know the teachings of Islam in these matters.

http://www.zawaj.com/straight_talk.html

http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/

Muslims have deviated from the path shown to them by their religion and adopted the path of self-interest and evil. On the other hand, all good values that were propagated by Prophet Muhammad (SAW) are adopted and implemented by today’s western world.


Our wives belong to Allah and not our properties that we own the way we own cars and houses. Our wives are amaana, a trust for us to look after to gain Allah’s pleasure. Any man who doesn’t fulfil this trust doesn’t deserve a wife.
.A woman's largest erogenous zone is her mind, She wants passion, Effort, Attention from you.Tell her clearly You love her. Give her a hug each day.

SEX is a major sin (HARAAM) outside marriage(ZINA) and it is haraam to deny  sexual pleasure to each other in married life. 

There are certain times when sex is more recommended:

1. When a women desires it from her husband.⁴⁹

2. When one is attracted to another woman.

It is narrated from Imām as-Ŝādiq (as): “Any person that sees a woman and is attracted to her must go to his wife and engage in sexual intercourse with her, because that which the other woman has, the wife also has, and one must not give Satan a way into one’s heart.

And lets not forget even our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was a man as well:

Jabir reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) saw a woman, and so he came to his wife, Zainab, as she was tanning a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them: The woman advances and retires in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart.[Book 8 Hadith 3240] 'The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)' of Sahih Muslim.

In Islam it is advisable for a man to have sex with his wife AT LEAST once every week on friday morning before jumma prayer.

Islam prohibits only two things between husband and wife:

1- Intercourse when the woman is in menstruation period and afterbirth period.

2- Anal intercourse. It is a great sin for a man to have anal intercourse with his wife.

Other than the above two restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with ones wife any place, any time, and any how their hearts desire.

You can do anything with your wife.. Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 223:

223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.

There is absolutely no veil or purdah between the sacred relationship of a husband and a wife in Islam.

1. http://www.mydeenislam.com/how-to-make-love-to-your-wife-in-islam.html
2. http://www.authentictauheed.com/2011/07/112-bedroom-etiquettes-in-islam.html

3.https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas-and-shaheen-merali/chapter-1-the-wedding-night

Read more in http://www.authentictauheed.com/2011/07/112-bedroom-etiquettes-in-islam.html

Source of the article:; https://loveinshallah.com/2013/02/21/advice-clueless-about-my-wedding-night/

“When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman has needs.” — Ali ibn Abi Talib (as)

TRY TO PLEASE HER FIRST BY KISSING, MASSAGING etc. http://www.mydeenislam.com/how-to-make-love-to-your-wife-in-islam.html

Go very, very slow. I recommend you begin by massaging your wife. A massage is a great way to learn where your wife likes to be touched—and where you like to be touched too. Youtube is a great place to learn massage techniques and because Youtube blocks explicit images, most of the content is quite halal to view. 

Talk to your partner about engaging in  stimulating the clitoris manually during foreplay and before penetration.

Remember that it's not uncommon for your sex life to be less extraordinary than expected. a man's erection might not last long or it might come and go,he may also ejaculate outside before entering, Being patient and taking your time, talking clearly, and learning/practicing are the best ways to allow the two of you to enjoy this newfound intimacy together.

SOURCE: https://islamqa.info/en/193320

193320: Can she masturbate if her husband cannot satisfy her desire?

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly: 

The basic principle is that masturbation is haraam. Please see the answer to question no. 329

That is only permitted if a person fears that he may end up committing zina; no doubt the prohibition on zina is more emphatic, and it is more abhorrent and reprehensible. Hence it is permissible to commit the lesser of two evils so as to ward off the greater. 

Ar-Ruhaybaani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If a person, man or woman, masturbates with no need to do so, that action is haraam and he should be given a disciplinary punishment for it, because it is a sin. But if he does it because he fears falling into zina or homosexuality, or because he fears physical harm, then there is no punishment.

End quote from Mataalib Ooli an-Nuha Sharh Ghaayat al-Muntaha, 6/226 

Al-Mirdaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:  

We learn two things from this: 

1.     That masturbation is not permissible except in cases of necessity

2.     The ruling for women on that matter is the same as the ruling for men, if a woman fears falling into zina. 

This is the correct view, as stated in al-Furoo‘.

End quote from al-Insaaf, 10/252 

Secondly: 

What the husband must do is give his wife her rights to kind treatment. One of the most important matters to which he must pay attention in that regard is keeping her chaste so that she will not look at other men, and giving her her rights in matters of intimacy as much as possible, even if that means using aphrodisiacs and paying attention to nutrition. 

If the husband reaches climax quickly, before his wife is satisfied, then he has to try hard to stimulate her first, even if that is with his hand or body, and not start to have intercourse until she is ready for that, and then she can reach climax through intercourse. 

If the question is about masturbation with the hand, what difference is there between the husband’s hand or her own hand? Why can’t he do that for her, and why should she do that herself? 

What we think is that the husband should do that, and it is better if it is before he has intercourse with her, then if she needs anything else, he can stimulate her again after having intercourse, so that her needs will be met. 

There is nothing wrong with him consulting a specialist doctor, if he is suffering from any kind of problem. 

And Allah knows best.

Most women report masturbating at least once a week, according to a new study in the Journal of Sex Research. The truth of the matter is far more women receive erotic or sensual massages than the public is aware of.

HOW TO DO  IT: FEMALE MASTURBATION

Apply water-based lubricant or coconut oil  or cold cream over your hairy area of vagina all way down to anus. Nearly 50 percent of men and women who have used lubricant say that it makes it easier to have an orgasm Place your  hand over your hairy vaginal lips and  slide from  top upto  your anus. Start by focusing on the hairy vulva, which is the outside visible area of the vagina.Finally, gently slide your  forefinger  down the sides of the clitoris and rotate around for about 10 strokes. Massage the head of the clitoris in circular motions using your forefinger and thumb.NO NEED  TO PUSH YOUR  FINGER  INSIDE  YOUR VAGINAL CANAL WHICH MANY PEOPLE SUGGEST.  REMEMBER, YOUR IMPORTANT POINT IS THE CLITORIS.

Masturbating once or twice a week is very common.

ITS ALL ABOUT HER CLITORIS.

Article one : http://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/reasons-women-should-masturbate_n_6172092

Article two:; http://health.allwomenstalk.com/health-benefits-of-female-masturbation

Article three::  https://www.womenshealthnetwork.com/sexandfertility/health-benefits-of-masturbation.aspx

Article  four: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a36484/benefits-of-masturbation/

Article five: http://sex.sofeminine.co.uk/sex-sexuality/female-masturbation-benefits-10-reasons-you-should-touch-yourself-mor-s704536.html

Article six:; http://www.webmd.com/women/features/female-masturbation-5-things-know#1

Article seven:

https://sacredtantrictouch.com/healing-benefits-of-yoni-massage/

Article  eight:

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/yoni-massage

Article nine:

http://healthise.com/care-sexual/health-benefits-of-female-masturbation/

premature ejaculation in man..early discharge..

1.Ejaculates before the penis enters the vagina
2. During the time of penetration into the vagina
3. Immediately after the penis enters into the vagina.

The researchers behind the report say premature ejaculation is a natural occurrence, especially among younger men and old man , and that those affected can learn to control their response to stimulation themselves without recourse to any drugs or therapies.

As many as one in three men may experience premature ejaculation during sex."Teens and men can understand their sexual response during masturbation and learn ejaculatory control without any drug therapy."

http://www.sciencealert.com/premature-ejaculation-isn-t-an-illness-and-shouldn-t-be-treated-study-suggests

premature ejaculation in man..early discharge..CONTROL

1.Massage his penis with mustard oil/ coconut oil/ Vaseline regularly so that he gets control over ejaculation

2. Masturbate one hour before having sex 

3. SEX POSITION SHOULD BE WOMAN ON TOP. Because when a man lies on bed, he can control his ejaculation.

Go Herbal

-Research literature supports a significant role of two herbs such as Ginseng and Pomegranate(ANAAR) in the treatment of erectile dysfunction.

–Ginseng has been found to increase the nitric oxide production thereby improving the blood flow. Pomegranate(ANAAR), a rich source of antioxidants has been found to be beneficial in preventing atherosclerosis

HERBAL TREATMENT:  GARLIC....Crush two or  three cloves  of  garlic  and eat this every  morning. Garlic  is  aphrodisiac,  Tonic for libido and to  maintain  erection.

You may buy DAMIAGRA from SBL in India.

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Make love often. This is a tough one to do in a relationship because work, kids, and household chores don't always leave time and energy for sex with your partner. But, sex is important in a relationship and should be made a priority. Try making a plan to make love at least twice a week: once during the week and once on the weekend. Stick to this as best you can so that you and your partner know that when to expect intimacy. While this isn't always romantic, you can make it so by turning on some soft music, lighting candles, or taking a bubble bath together. Making love will keep you and your partner close and keep the relationship new and exciting. Without sex, a relationship becomes dull and partners become more like roommates than lovers. It's important to make sex a priority so that both partners feel a connection to one another. By making love at least twice a week, you'll keep the spark a live and help your relationship to become exciting and new again.

pls read http://www.speakingtree.in/slideshow/benefits-of-daily-sex/benefits-of-daily-sex

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Marriage-bad-for-your-sex-life/articleshow/7105662.cms

Researchers found that though, initially, couples can expect to have sex more than four times a week, after three years of life as man and wife, most couples are lucky to have sex just once every seven days.

In reality, sexual relationship is essential and a healthy part of a marriage. Sex needs commitment and connectivity and that is where most young people find themselves lacking the adequate energy or inclination," opines Dr Rajiv Anand, marriage counsellor. According to him, it is not the sexual act that loses novelty or attraction after marriage but the approach of the people involved.

So what's the solution? "If it's a case of physical fatigue, couples should engage in scheduled sex. They must plan weekend getaways or make arrangements to leave the child with a babysitter or relatives and plan a night out where they could probably get home early from work and then just concentrate on spending time with each other. If it's an issue of emotional distancing, communication is the only solution. Couples need to talk things out with each other in a non-toxic way," says Dr Minnu. 

Dr Anjali Chhabria, psychiatrist and psychotherapist opines that it is more important to get down to the root cause of the issue than just search for quick fix solutions. "Sex is an important part of marriage and the lack of it could indicate issues in the marriage. A declining sex life is a symptom, it's just the tip of the iceberg. One needs to find answers to why there is no sex? Is it because there is no chemistry in the relationship or is there no relationship at all? Are the partners too tired or stressed out? Does one partner feel that she or he is no longer attractive to the other? Is one's spouseattracted to someone else? If it's just boredom, couples need to make sex a priority. If they are too tired to have sex at night, do it in the morning. If lack of privacy is the issue, couple need to make time for themselves. Most importantly, couples need to tell each other what they want. Your partner is not a magician to magically figure out your wants and needs," she explains. 

rachel.fernandes@timesgroup.com

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/LIFE-STYLE/Relationships/Man-Woman/Sex-guide-according-to-your-age/moviereview/4807102.cms

20-something 
Most guys just can't stop dreaming about sex every couple of hours. At this age, girls are usually rebellious in their sexual imaginations. They share same-sex fantasies or want to try out bi-sexuality. A 2006 study of nearly 2000 people discovered that 76 per cent of women who slept with women reached orgasm (for women with men, the figure stands at 50 per cent).
The 20s are the time when young boys and girls are most experimental in their sexual positions. One in 10 people claims Tracey Cox have had a threesome in their early twenties.

Also, people in this age group have most likely visited a strip joint or a lapdancing club - with their friends or their better half.

30 something 
The 30s are a time to experiment, almost all 30-somethings claim to have had sex outdoors. Unlike the teens when making out was the most common form of sexual experimentation, most 30 somethings prefer having sex somewhere semi-public like the beach, in the garden or on a park bench in the darkness. There's something wildly erotic about these sexapades! Also, high on the 30 something popularity chart are having sex in the shower or in the bath tub.

Kinky pleasures also rate high as most 30 plus couples claim to be giving in to their fantasies of bondage, blindfolds and spanking on a weekend of debauchery.
This is also the time when women are most likely to befriend gay male pals. Straight women love gay men; gay men love straight women. Swedish research is confirming just why the two groups get along so famously - they both have symmetrical brains. Straight men and lesbians have asymmetrical brain hemispheres.

The 30s also mark the arrival of children in a married couple's life, so the sex drive naturally dwindles. But, Cox points out that during pregnancy, couples have sex four to five times a month. Most put the brakes on their sex lives for about seven weeks after delivery, but four months later are back to four or five times of sex a month. Cox says six months after delivery, the average couple goes back to having sex three to five times a month. But incase you don't fit the bill, remember getting disheartened ain't gonna help. Remember it's just a temporary period, so continue touching and cuddling and if your baby robs you of chances to have sex, indulge in quickies.

Most women says Cox in her book experience higher orgasm rates. Ninety per cent of women past 30 regularly experience orgasm, compared to just 23 per cent of younger women.

40 something 
Men in their 40s are more likely to experience erection problems. Also, this is the age when maximum number of men tend to be unfaithful. Also, men are more compelled in their 40s to watch more porn or indulge in sex chats. Women on the other hand get sexually very demanding, often being attracted to younger men.

If you thought the 40s were about low libido, think again, while 40-somethings maybe having less sex than ever, the thrust has shifted from how many times in a week to an emphasis on better quality. You are more sure of your sexual needs in this age group and thus more likely to insist on passion play as opposed to a mere making out session.