Re: Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life

 

sent by: JEBEEN@aol.com

Sent: Sunday, January 09, 2005 12:46 AM

Subject: Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life

dear baity,

very recently exactly this thing happened to me in real life.and i had a very bad day.thanx a lot for this article.

----saleem

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You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened.  What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.  You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal
battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home,When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your
relationship with your spouse and daughter.You had no control over what happened with the
coffee.
  How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused
your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
  Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to
cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase, you come back down in time

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"I think laughter is very imperative. And that's the important part of my life, of making people laugh so they can forget their problems. A good laugh is better than anything."  http://saleemindia.blogspot.com  "

----- Original Message -----

From: JEBEEN@aol.com

To: JEBEEN@aol.com

Sent: Friday, January 07, 2005 10:33 AM

Subject: 1/6/05

Here is an interesting message for us to read and
think:

The 90/10 Principle

Have you read this before?
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life
(at least the way you react to situations). What is
this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of
life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to
us. We cannot stop the car from breaking
down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other
90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red
light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let
people fool you; YOU can control
how you react.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your
business shirt. You have no control over what just
what happened.  What happens when the next
will be determined by how you react.

You curse.  You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn
to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup
too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal
battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter
has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get
ready for school.
She misses the  bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a
30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and
throwing $60 traffic fine away,you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs into the building without
saying goodbye.After arriving at the office 20 minutes
late, you find you forgot yourbriefcase. Your day has
started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home,
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your
relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why
did you have a bad day?
                     A) Did the coffee cause it?
                      B) Did your daughter cause it?
                      C) Did the policeman cause it?
                    D) Did you cause it?

  The answer is " D".
  You had no control over what happened with the
coffee.
  How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused
your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
  Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to
cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase, you come back down in time to look
through the window and see your child getting on the
bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early
and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both
ended different.
  Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what
happens. The other 90% was determined by your
reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be
a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't
have to let the negative comment affect you! React
properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a
friend,
being fired, getting stressed out etc.

  How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
  Do you lose your temper?
  Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had
the steering wheel fall off)
  Do you curse?
  Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why
let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about
it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get
irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy
and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule
for the day. Why take out your frustration on the
flight attendant? She has no control over what is
going on. Use your time to study,get to know the other
passenger.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you
will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing
if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and
apply this principle. The result? Millions of people
are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems
and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

  It CAN change your life***!!!!!!!