TWO GUIDES OF MY LIFE GONE , SAME MONTH & SAME YEAR.
I LOST MY FATHER , MY MENTOR, MY INSPIRATION SYED ISHTIAQUE AHMAD SAHEB ON 13.08.2016. AT GUWAHATI, ASSAM
&
I LOST MY SPIRITUAL GUIDE MOHD NASIM AFSAR SAHEB of Mumbai on 28.08.2016.
Death is inevitable. It is the one thing that we can be certain about in life. We are born to die. Every soul shall have a taste of death no matter who they are. This is confirmed for us many times in the Quran:
"Every soul shall have a taste of death: and only on the Day of Judgement shall you be paid your full recompense." (Quran 3:185)
MY FATHER S GRAVE
MY BORBOBAA S GRAVE
MY YOUNGEST SISTER GRAVE
- The scholars agree that the dead person is benefited by the good things that he initiated in his lifetime. The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said: "When a son of Adam dies, his deeds cease to benefit him except three: a perpetual charity, a useful contribution to knowledge, and a good child who would pray for him." [Reported by Imam Muslim and the other six Imams]
- As far as the good acts by the living people that will benefit the dead person, they are as follows:
WHENEVER YOU REMEMBER YOUR DEPARTED PARENTS OR FAMILY MEMBERS...IMMEDIATELY SAY ...O ALLAH PLEASE FORGIVE THEM AND GIVE THEM JANNAH.
- Supplicating and asking for Allah's forgiveness for the dead: Allah (S.W.T.) says what can be translated as, " And those who came after them saying: 'O our Lord, forgive us and our brothers who preceded us in good faith."' [surat Al-Hashr, (verse 10)] Also, this practice of praying for the dead is from the tradition of the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.).
- Charity: the mother of Sa'ad Ibn Obada (R.A.) died while he was away, so he came to the prophet (S.A.W.) and said:" O messenger of Allah, my mother has died while I was away, would it benefit her if I gave charity on her behalf? He (S.A.W.) said: "Yes." Sa'ad said: "I would like you to witness that my orchard - Al-Mikhraf - is a charity on her behalf." [Reported by Imam Al-Bukhari]
- Fasting: A man came to the prophet (S.A.W.) and said:" O messenger of Allah, my mother died before she made up a month's time of fasting, can I make it up for her?" he (PBUH) said:" If your mother were in debt, would you have paid the debt for her?" he said: "Yes", he (S.A.W.) said: " A debt to Allah is more worthy of being paid." [Reported by Imams Bukhari and Muslim]
- Hajj: A woman from Juhaynah (a tribe) came to the prophet (S.A.W.) and said: "My mother has made (Nathr) - (a promise to Allah) - to go to Hajj, but she died before she fulfilled her "Nathr". Can I perform Hajj on her behalf? He (S.A.W.) said: "Perform Hajj on her behalf. If your mother were in debt, would you not have paid it for her? Do it (all of you) because Allah is more worthy of being paid pack." [Reported by Imam Al-Bukhari]
- Paying off the Deceased's Debts: The money to pay off the debt can come from the deceased's wealth, or any donations from family or friends. "Abu Qatada (R.A.) donated money to pay the debt of a deceased person, which was two Dinars, with the approval of the prophet (S.A.W.)." [Reported by Imam Al-Hakm and Al-Baihaqui]
- Reciting Qur'an: There is a difference of opinion among the scholars regarding this practice since no explicit text has been gathered that says reading the Qur'an would benefit the dead with a reward. Hanafi and Hanbali schools of Fiqh say that the reward of reading Qur'an will reach the dead, because these scholars made an analogy about the other righteous deeds that have been mentioned by the prophet (S.A.W) like fasting or hajj on behalf of the dead. On the other hand, Maliki and Shaf'i schools of Fiqh say that the reward will not reach the dead, because Allah (S.W.T) says, what can be translated as, "And that man can have nothing but what he does (good or bad)." [surat Al-Najm,(verse 39)] And also the prophet (S.A.W) said: "When a person is dead, his deeds cease (are stopped) except from three: a continuous charity, a knowledge which mankind gets benefit and a righteous child who makes supplication for him." [Reported by Imam Muslim] Also, there is no text from the prophet that proves that reciting Qura'n will transfer into a reward for the dead.
"Every soul shall have a taste of death:
and We test you by evil and by good, by way of trial. To Us must you
return." (21:35)
"Every soul shall have a taste of death: In
the end to Us shall you be brought back." (29:57)
and the Almighty says, “No self knows what it will earn tomorrow and no self knows in what land it will die.” (W31:33; H31:34)
The Almighty says, “When their specified time arrives, they cannot delay it for a single hour nor can they bring it forward,” (16:61)
and the Almighty says, “O you who believe! Do not let your wealth or children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. Whoever does that is lost. Give from what We have provided for you before death comes to one of you and he says, ‘O Lord, if only you would give me a little more time so that I can give sadaqa and be one of the righteous.’ Allah will not give anyone more time, once their time has come. Allah is aware of everything you do.” (63:9-11)
Ibn ‘Umar used to say, “In the evening, do not anticipate the morning, and in the morning do not anticipate the evening. Take from your health for your illness and from your life for your death.” [al-Bukhari]
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures,” by which he meant death.
Source: Sunan ibn Majah 4258, Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
http://dailyhadith.abuaminaelias.com/2012/09/13/hadith-on-death-recommendation-to-frequently-remember-death-the-destroyer-of-pleasures/
Abu Hurayra reported the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Race to good actions as fast as you can. What are you waiting for except delayed poverty, oppressive wealth, debilitating illness, dottering senility, a swift death or the Dajjal? Or are you waiting for an unseen evil, or the Last Hour? The Last Hour will be most bitter and terrible.” [at-Tirmidhi]
https://muslimvillage.com/2016/07/26/52109/verses-and-hadiths-on-remembering-death/
Death is not total
annihilation, but a different state of being.
When people sleep (and sleep is the “lesser death”), the soul is taken, but not
completely, so the sleeper is still alive. Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning): “It is Allaah Who takes away the souls at the time of their
death, and those that die not during their sleep, He keeps those (souls) for
which He has ordained death and sends the rest for a term appointed. Verily, in
this are signs for a people who think deeply.” [al-Zumar 39:42]
The Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) advised the Muslim,
when he lies down to sleep, to say: “Bismika Rabbee wada’tu janbi wa bika
arfa’uhu wa in amsakta nafsi farhamhaa wa in arsaltahaa fahfazhaa bimaa tuhfaz
bihi ‘ibaadika al-saaliheen ( In Your name, my Lord, I lie down, and
in Your name I rise. If You should take my soul then have mercy on it, and if
You should return my soul then protect it as You protect Your righteous
slaves).” When the Muslim wakes up, he should say, “Al-hamdu Lillaah alladhi
‘aafaani fi jasadi wa radda ‘alayya roohi wa adhina li bi dhikrihi (Praise
be to Allaah Who has restored to me my health and returned my soul and has
allowed me to remember Him ).” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 3323’ He said, a hasan
hadeeth).
It
is in Hadith - Narrated Anas bin Malik : Allah's Apostle ( صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم ) said, "When (Allah's - سبحانہ و تعا لی) slave is put in his grave and his companions
return and he even hears their footsteps, two angels come to him and make him
sit and ask questions. (Bukhari
- Volume 2, Book 23, number
456).
Then
he said to us: "Ask Allah (سبحانہ و تعا لی) for refuge from the torment of the grave",
he repeated this command two or three times. Then he said O Allah (سبحانہ و تعا لی) I seek refuge in you from the torment of the
grave (three times).
It
is in Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (صلى
الله عليه و آله وسلم ) said ‘when you go to the graves of the dead,
say ‘Assalamu alaikum ya ahlal quboor’ – meaning ‘peace be upon you O’ people
of graves’.
It
is in Hadith narrated by Hazrat
Abdullah Bin Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم ) said,
‘whoever goes by the grave of a believer and offers salutation (says Assalamu
alaikum) to him, the believer recognizes him and answers back the salutation’.
(Gazali,
Ihyau Ulumi’d-din, IV, Ziyaratu’l Qubur)
It is in Quran – ‘Those who die in the way of Allah ( سبحانہ و
تعا لی) do not call them as dead. They are alive, but you do not
understand it’. (Al-Baqara – 154). They live in the ‘life of
comforts’ after death until resurrection.
It is in Hadith - Once Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم )
was returning from a conflict (war) and he said, we are moving from the smaller
Jihad to the bigger Jihad (Tazkia Nafs). (al-Radd al-Mukhtar -
Kitab al-Jihad - Vol. 3 - P-237).
All Awliya Allah and good Muslims who have fought with their
Nufoos throughout their lives and died, insha-Allah will be covered under the
above Quranic verse (as per above Prophet's -صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم
Hadith).
It is in Hadith
- narrated
by Buraidah (radiyallahu ta'ala anhu) that the dear Prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi
wasallam) said: "I used
to forbid you from visiting the graves (but now I give you permission), you
should visit them" (Muslim, Mishkat p.154)
It
is in Hadith - Muhammad bin Nu'man
(radiyallahu ta'ala anhu) narrates that Rasoolallah (sallallahu 'alaihi
wasallam) said: "Whoever visits his parents' graves or
visits one of their graves every Friday, then he will be forgiven and will be
written as being one of the pious" (Mishkat p.154)
What kind of things can be done that would benefit the dead muslim muslimah?
After burial, the soul comes back to the dead person, and he
can hear his companions' footsteps as they leave. (Bukhaariy) Umar once asked,
"Are our minds returned to us, O Messenger of Allah?" The Prophet
(may Allah raise his rank) confirmed that this will be so. (Ahmad)
Two blueish black angels Munkar and Nakiir come to the newly
buried, sit him up, and ask him some questions. Note, however, that martyrs of the
battlefield, prophets and children are spared the questioning of the angels.
The martyrs, the prophets, and some of the Muslim saints do
not decompose at all. It was related that "the prophets are alive in their
graves, praying," (Ibn Hajar) and the Quran states that the Martyrs are
alive.
In addition to the above Ibn ^abbaas related that if a
Muslim greets a buried muslim who used to know him in this life, then he will
know who it is and return his greeting from the grave. (Ibn ^abdu-l-Barr)
All of the above hadits and many more show that death is not total
annihilation, but a different state of being.
- The scholars agree that the
dead person is benefited by the good things that he initiated in his
lifetime. The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said: "When a son of Adam
dies, his deeds cease to benefit him except three: a perpetual charity, a
useful contribution to knowledge, and a good child who would pray for
him." [Reported by Imam Muslim and the other six Imams]
- As far as the good acts by
the living people that will benefit the dead person, they are as follows:
- Supplicating and
asking for Allah's forgiveness for the dead: Allah (S.W.T.) says what
can be translated as, " And those who came after them saying: 'O
our Lord, forgive us and our brothers who preceded us in good
faith."' [surat Al-Hashr, (verse 10)] Also, this practice of
praying for the dead is from the tradition of the prophet Muhammad
(S.A.W.).
- Charity: the mother
of Sa'ad Ibn Obada (R.A.) died while he was away, so he came to the
prophet (S.A.W.) and said:" O messenger of Allah, my mother has
died while I was away, would it benefit her if I gave charity on her
behalf? He (S.A.W.) said: "Yes." Sa'ad said: "I would
like you to witness that my orchard - Al-Mikhraf - is a charity on her
behalf." [Reported by Imam Al-Bukhari]
- Fasting: A man came
to the prophet (S.A.W.) and said:" O messenger of Allah, my mother
died before she made up a month's time of fasting, can I make it up for
her?" he (PBUH) said:" If your mother were in debt, would you
have paid the debt for her?" he said: "Yes", he (S.A.W.)
said: " A debt to Allah is more worthy of being paid."
[Reported by Imams Bukhari and Muslim]
- Hajj: A woman from
Juhaynah (a tribe) came to the prophet (S.A.W.) and said: "My
mother has made (Nathr) - (a promise to Allah) - to go to Hajj, but she
died before she fulfilled her "Nathr". Can I perform Hajj on
her behalf? He (S.A.W.) said: "Perform Hajj on her behalf. If your
mother were in debt, would you not have paid it for her? Do it (all of
you) because Allah is more worthy of being paid pack." [Reported by
Imam Al-Bukhari]
- Paying off the
Deceased's Debts: The money to pay off the debt can come from the
deceased's wealth, or any donations from family or friends. "Abu
Qatada (R.A.) donated money to pay the debt of a deceased person, which
was two Dinars, with the approval of the prophet (S.A.W.)."
[Reported by Imam Al-Hakm and Al-Baihaqui]
- Reciting Qur'an:
There is a difference of opinion among the scholars regarding this
practice since no explicit text has been gathered that says reading the
Qur'an would benefit the dead with a reward. Hanafi and Hanbali schools
of Fiqh say that the reward of reading Qur'an will reach the dead,
because these scholars made an analogy about the other righteous deeds
that have been mentioned by the prophet (S.A.W) like fasting or hajj on
behalf of the dead. On the other hand, Maliki and Shaf'i schools of Fiqh
say that the reward will not reach the dead, because Allah (S.W.T) says,
what can be translated as, "And that man can have nothing but what
he does (good or bad)." [surat Al-Najm,(verse 39)] And also the
prophet (S.A.W) said: "When a person is dead, his deeds cease (are
stopped) except from three: a continuous charity, a knowledge which
mankind gets benefit and a righteous child who makes supplication for
him." [Reported by Imam Muslim] Also, there is no text from the
prophet that proves that reciting Qura'n will transfer into a reward for
the dead.
What are the rules concerning the visitation of graves?
- Visiting the graves is
desirable for both men and women. This will remind us of the reality of
death. The prophet (S.A.W) said to the companions, "I had
(previously) forbidden you to visit the graves, now (it is permissible for
you, so) go and visit them, there is a lesson to learn from them, and do
not say anything that will upset Allah." [Reported by Imams Al-Hakm,
Al-Baihaqui, and Al-Bazzar] Women just like men may visit the graves,
because of the orders of the prophet (S.A.W), which included them too.
Also women will share with men the same wisdom that can be learned from
visiting the graves. And also when Aishah (R.A.) asked the prophet (S.A.W)
what she could say when she visits the graves, the prophet taught her what
she should say, and did not prevent her from visiting the graves. He said
to her, "Say, Aishah, “Peace be upon the believing men and women
dwelling here. May Allah grant mercy to those who have preceded us and
those who are to follow them certainly, Allah willing, we will join you”.
[Reported by Imams Muslim and An-Nasa'i] The opinion for men as well as
women to visit graves has been adopted by Imam Malik, some Hanafi scholars
and even one report from Imam Ahmad. It is, however, important that the
women must be dressed according to the Sharia’h rules and be accompanied
by her Mahram.
- Whoever pays a visit to a
grave; you should face the deceased, greet and supplicate for him/her as
the prophet used to do while he visited graves.
Prohibited Acts While Visiting Graves
- No wiping hands over the
graves
- No kissing or
circumambulating around them
- No sacrificing animals for
the dead
- No sitting on the grave or
walking on top of them
- No praying toward the graves
- No breaking the bones of the
dead
- No placing pictures or
flowers on top of the grave
SHARE THIS AS IT IS SADAQA JAARIYAH
What is sadaqa jaariyah
?
Abu
Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, 'The righteous works that
continue to benefit a believer after his death (or sadaqa jaariyah) include the
knowledge that he taught and spread among others, a righteous son whom he leaves
behind, or a copy of the Qur'an that he bequeaths to his inheritors, or a
mosque that he builds, or a rest house that he builds for the wayfarers, or a
well/pond of water that he digs for the benefit of others, helping a child for
his/her education, helping orphan, donating to school/dispensary/hospital, or
planting trees. He will continue to receive reward for all these even
after his death.'
Related by Ibn Majah. Muslim, and Abu Dawood.
