Warm up some massage oil by rubbing it with both hands, then spread it all over his penis and testicles. Place one hand on the shaft of his penis, and start stroking it in an up and down motion, says Cadell. Meanwhile, use the other hand to gently roll his testicles in your palm. Do this in slow-mo for at least a few minutes.
"On the female genitals, it's best to switch to a water-based lubricant because if oil gets inside the vagina, it can cause irritation," says Cadell. Make sure to warm the lube with your hands first before placing them in her vagina. Nearly 50 percent of men and women who have used lube say that it makes it easier to have an orgasm
TIPS TO MASSAGE THE BODY
Massages are used for healing, relaxing, and tuning the body and is also a powerful means of arousing the body! One of the methods of body massage said to be in use during the reign of the Mughals is the full body massage in which the female would use her body to massage the body of her lover and vice versa. Of course, for a "full body" massage it required at least three more bodies to do the needful. Today, some call it the "sandwich massage" others just simply, Thai.
Well, since we can't really access such pleasures, it would be simpler to stick to what is possible. Which in this case means, your own dear partner. An evening spent massaging each others' bodies can turn out to be quite an event, provided of course, both of you are willing partners in the game. And yes, don't be afraid of experimenting and touching the part of the body that can give you maximum pleasure. Of course, as all things in life, build it up slow and steady. A mere oiling of the body followed by sex is not half as pleasurable as the teasing and the anticipation of the final act. Here are some massaging tips to awaken your body to hidden desires:
1. Shoulder Press with Face down: To start, oil your hands well. When in the mood, start with a shoulder press. Ask your lover to lie down on his/her tummy while you sit atop and press his/her shoulders. Avoid putting pressure on the spine. The idea here is to loosen up the body, to relax and enjoy your partner's hands on you. Use your finger pads to exert pressure. But goodness sake, don't dig your fingernails into the body!
2. Rake your finger pads up and down the torso: Having relaxed your partner's muscles you can now proceed to rake your fingers up and down the torso. Not with nails, please! Only finger pads, soft but firm. This would release the tension in the nerves and would further loosen up the body.
3.Lower Back & HIP massage: After the shoulders move down to the lower back kneading and palming the body as you go along. Again, be careful about not digging into the body. Instead, slide your palms, and knead the skin and muscles gently. Try to do it slowly and rhythmically. Use more oil if you think the skin of your partner and your hands require it. Lower back in men and shoulder in women contain the erogenous zones that excite the body. For women during pre-menstrual period a lower back massage can go a long way in getting rid of the tense muscles. While massaging this area, take special care of the sacrum - this is the triangular area between buttocks and the spine - very sensitive and responsive to touch. Lightly massage the area using small and circular strokes as you move lower to buttocks and the upper thighs.
4. Thigh might: Upper thighs are usually a major turn on. This is where you are bound to find yourself distracted. Follow your mood and the partner's pulse to explore this area slowly. It is all right at this stage to turn your partner over and give his/her genitals a gentle kneading. Remember to keep your hands well lubricated with water-based lubricants.
5. Massage, Neck and Ears: Encourage your lover to breathe in a deep and relaxing manner as you gently massage his or her neck, making small circles over the release points on the upper neck and about halfway up the ears. Now is a really good time to let the kissing begin. Finally massage or caresse a woman's breasts using lots of oil on your palms
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