Monday, February 27, 2017

SOCIAL MEDIA MARKETING TIPS

SOCIAL MEDIA MARKETING TIPS

Social media has evolved from being a meeting place of new friends to a business hub—a way to promote your brand awareness, share blog posts, work photos.
Everything you do on social media should be driven by a marketing strategy.
Marketeers are allocating 10% of their budget to social media.
Social media marketing is all about Sharing case studies, important thoughts, trends and epic ideas. Be transparent and honest. Your audience will love it.
I personally use only facebook and instagram instead of using all other social media.”LESS IS MORE”
1. Be relevant
2. Be visually appealing (PHOTOSHOP)
3. Be clear and concise
4. Include a call to action
Source of the article
www.neilpatel.com

Friday, February 24, 2017

EMOTIONAL UNDERSTANDING (EMPATHY) BETWEEN HUSBAND WIFE






EMOTIONAL  UNDERSTANDING (EMPATHY)  BETWEEN HUSBAND WIFE

Empathy  is  simply the act  of feeling  your  spouse”s emotion as if  walking  in his or her shoes. Most of our marriages lack  empathy.

Hidayah (Arabic: هداية‎‎, Hidāyah) is an Arabic word meaning "guidance". According to Islamic belief, guidance has been provided by Allah to humans primarily in the form of the Qur'an. May Allah gives us all hidayah. Ameen. It is our obligatory duty to spread the quranic knowledge as ordered by our beloved Prophet (Peace Be upon Him).This post is made with this intention. All sources of information are shown so that the reader can go and read more from the actual source.

Islam cannot be properly followed without knowledge. It is a rational law and to follow it rightly one needs to exercise reason and understanding at every step.
Today the authority for Ijtihād is with the mufti, or Dar al-Ifta, Center of Rulings, which gives general rulings (fatwā, pl. fatāwā) about an incident or legal question. As scholars, they are able to look at the entire package of Islam and issue a ruling on the question at hand.


If there is one fundamental need that exists in every single human relationship, it is the need to feel relevant and appreciated. the truth is: both men and women need love, respect, physical and emotional satisfaction. When a woman’s physical desires are consistently dismissed or left half-fulfilled, she feels as frustrated as a man in such situations does; and when a man never hears any words of appreciation or admiration, he feels as underappreciated and unvalued as a woman in these situations does.

It is extremely crucial for the health of your marriage that you sit down with your spouse and figure out what is important to them, and how they’ve always expected you to fulfill those needs for them.

one of Allah’s best gifts to us: a spouse. It is a denial of a favor Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) has blessed us with

 Couples that have learnt to communicate effectively do away with the majority of marital stress because they become so attuned to each other’s feelings that they can immediately sense the emotional state of their spouse through the slightest change in words or tone. And as our beloved Aisha raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) put it so beautifully – even in anger; happy, loving Muslim spouses never desert anything more than each other’s name when they try to communicate that they feel wronged or hurt. They never desert love and respect for each other in conflict: this, is the key to staying happy in your marriage. Happy Muslim couples talk like best friends, in good times and in conflict.


TIP ONE: When your wife/husband is sharing  his or her  feelings, show  that you  understand their feelings, while  doing  so  don’t  start giving  advice. That is  not what they are after. They simply want  someone to   hear them out.  They  need your  ears..

TIP  TWO: : Both men and women need love, respect, physical and emotional satisfaction. So give it to  him/her. 

TIP  THREE: Your  spouse is  not mind reader. How  will  he/she know  if you don’t tell  him/her.  Share your thoughts and  feelings  about your inner world. 

TIP FOUR:  You are the only man/woman your spouse is allowed to look at from head to toe, so please don’t be an eye sore! Yes, make this your mantra. Tell yourself this every time you look in the mirror at your unkempt hair, permanent pyjamas or neglected body. Looking good for your spouse is as important (and as easy) as everything else you do everyday like eating or sleeping.

TIP FIVE::Make time for each other. there’s just no excuse not to give at least half an hour (okay, 15 minutes when you’re just too exhausted) of undivided attention and love to your spouse. Watch with him  his  favourite movies. Try to enjoy his  hobbies/what  he likes to do and   vice versa.  

Muslim man is allowed to look at the face and hands of a non-
mahram lady who is not related to him. Men, whether they confess it or not, are slaves of lust and desire.They will eventually look at your bust or hips.

It is a major sin (HARAAM) to deny  sexual pleasure to each other.there are certain times when sex is more recommended:
1. When a women desires it from her husband.49
2. When one is attracted to another woman.
It is narrated from Imām as-Ŝādiq (as): “Any person that sees a woman and is attracted to her must go to his wife and engage in sexual intercourse with her, because that which the other woman has, the wife also has, and one must not give Satan a way into one’s heart.. 


Understanding Of How Men And Boys Think:
1 Men really are sex-crazed
The brain's part inked to sexual pursuit is two-and-a-half times larger in males than females.
2 They're programmed to be  pervert.
The testosterone drives what Louann calls the "man trance" - a glazed-eye stare at breasts. She says: "I wish I could say that men can stop themselves from entering this trance. But the truth is, they can't."
3 Men want more partners
According to the book, men want an average of 14 sexual partners in their lifetime. Women want one or two.

An Artcle by Shobha De:

The truth aboout marriage is that there are no answers. Its the most complex realtionship on EARTH.
Marraige will always be into FAMILIES,rather than to individuals.You cant eliminate family,that is what society requires. Today, marraige is all about a balancing act between children,friends,parents,career and the sometimes overpowering need to curl up in your own private space.
Give marraige sufficient TIME.
TOLERANCE is a must for any relationship to work.
COMMITMENT means one needs to give in sufficiently for a relationship to work.
http://saleemindia.blogspot.in/2018/03/why-men-want-sex-and-women-want-love.html



Sunday, February 19, 2017

30 Books That Shaped My Life

NOTE FROM SALEEM:

         THE INTENTION OF THIS POST IS TO SHARE INFORMATION FOR THE BENEFIT OF ALL PEOPLE.PLEASE SHARE IT WITH YOUR RELATIVES AND FRIENDS.MAYBE IT WILL HELP SOMEBODY.ITS "SADAQA E JAARIYAH" TO SPREAD KNOWLEDGE THAT HELPS OTHERS..

30 Books That Shaped My Life

At different  phases  of  life I studied  the following  books. And they are still  with me in my home library. I still refer to them when in doubt. As  per me,  they are the best. I have excluded  some  philosophical  books, sufism , imam gazzali  books  from the  list though I  have them also in my home library.

Different  stages of my life when I read  them

1.  After doing  engineering
2. Before starting my consultancy business
3.After taking spiritual guide
4.Before my marriage
5.Before  my  kids  are born
6.Before and  during haj
7.The  list  goes  on as I am moving forward in life ...you can guess yourself  by observing  the titles of the books


































Saturday, February 18, 2017

How to Perform Namaz (salat-prayer)

 How to Perform Namaz (salat-prayer)

It is compulsory for all Muslims to make effort for understanding the meanings of recitation words in Namaz as it will help us to concentrate much better for getting benefits perfectly as though we see Allah in front of us or he sees us standing in front of him because during Salat, Muslims meet their God directly 5 times a day so if we know what we are saying in Namaz, it will enable us to feel much more humble and talk to the Master of Universe in modesty. 

Make the intention of offering Namaz then raise hands to ears and say:
Step 1: Say Takbeer-e-Tahrima:
Allaahu Akbar —• Allah is the greatest!
Learn Namaz in English & Arabic
Step 2a: Read Sana:
Subhaana Kal-lah hum-ma wabi hamdika watha-baara kasmuka watha’aala jad-duka walaa ilaaha ghayruk. —• Glory be to you, O Allah, and all praises are due unto you, and blessed is your name and high is your majesty and none is worthy of worship but you.
Learn to read first dua in namaz
Step 2b: Say Ta’awwudh (تعوذ) & Tasmiyya (تسمية)
A’udhu bil-laahi minash Shaythaa-nir-rajeem —• I seek Allah’s protection from Satan who is accursed.
Bismillaah hir-Rahmaa nir-Raheem —• In the name of Allah, the most Kind and the most Merciful.
Learn salat in English
Step 2c: Recite Surah Fatiha
Alhamdul lil-laahi rab-bil ‘aalameen —• Praise is only for Allah, Lord of the Universe.
Ar rahmaa nir-raheem —• The most Kind, the most Merciful.
Maaliki yawmid-deen —• The master of the Day of Judgement.
Iyyaa-ka na’budu wa iyyaa-ka nasta’een —• You alone we worship and to you alone we pray for help.
Ihdinas siraatal mustaqeem —• Show us the straight way.
Siraatal Ladheena an’amta ‘alayhim —• The way of those whom you have blessed.
Ghay-ril maghdubi ‘alayhim —• Who have not deserved your anger.
Walad daal-leen. Ameen —• Nor gone astray.
Learn Sura Fatiha for Namaz
Note: We can read any Surah after reciting Surah Faatiha above, as long as it is a minimum of 3 verses or one long verse. The following is a short and popular Surah situated towards the end of the Qur’an called Surah Al Ikhlas:
Step 2d: Read Surah Al Ikhlas
Qul huwal laahu ahad. —• Say: He is Allah, the only one.
Allaah hus-Samad. —• Allah helps and does not need help.
Lam yalid walam yoolad. —• He does not produce a child, and He was not born of anyone.
Walam yakul-lahu Kufuwan ahad. —• There is no one equal to Him.
Surah Ikhlas, Learn to read surah Ikhlas
Step 3: Perform Ruku
Say Allahu Akbar before bowing for Ruku. in Ruku, say.this dua at least 3 times and maximum 7 times.
Subhaana Rabbi’al Azeem —• “Glory to my Lord the Exalted”.
Learn how to offer namaz
Step 4: Then stand up straight while saying this dua.
Sami Allaahu Liman Hamidah —• “Allah listens to him who praises Him”
Rabbanaa lakal Hamd —• “Oh our Lord, all praise is to you”.
Learn Qauma in namaz for women
Step 5: Say Allahu Akbar
Allaahu Akbar —• Allah is the greatest!
Learn how to offer namaz in Urdu
Step 6: Perform the prostration (sajda)
Before going to sajda, we say Allahu Akbar and in Sajda, we say this dau at least 3 times, maximum 7 times.
Subhaana Rabbi yal A’alaa —• “Oh Allah glory be to you, the most high.”
How to perform salat sunni way step by step
Step 7: Rise to a sitting position
Rise to a sitting position, while saying Allahu Akbar (الله أَكْبَر).
Learn to read namaz with hanfi way
Step 8: Prostrate again
Prostrate again, saying Allahu Akbar (الله أَكْبَر). The second prostration is exactly identical to the first one. And repeat again that dua during prostration at least 3 times maximum 7 times.
How to perform salat sunni way step by step
Step 9: Rise up to proceed to the second rakat
Rise up to proceed to the next raka’at, saying Allahu Akbar (الله أَكْبَر). The second raka’at is identical to the first one up till the second prostration, but without the Takbiratul Ihram.
Allahu Akbar-Learn Namz
Step 10a: Perform the Tashahhud at the end of the second rakat
After the second prostration, stay in a sitting position and recite the Tashahhud (also known as Athahiyyaatu) and then Was Salawaatu
AthahiyyaatuLillahi Was Salawaatu Wattayyibatu —• All compliments, all physical prayer and all monetary worship are for Allah.
Assalamu Alaika Ayyuhannabi ‘yu ‘Warahmatullaahi Wabarka’tuhu —• Peace be upon you, Oh Prophet, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
Assalamu Alaina Wa’alaa’Ibaadillaahis Saa’liheen, —• Peace be on us and on all righteous slaves of Allah.
Ash’had’u’Allahaa ilaha illallahu —•I bear witness that no one is worthy of worship except Allah
Wa Ash’hadu Anna Muhammadun Abd’uhu Wa Rasooluh —• And I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger
How to perform salat for women
Step 10b: Recite Durood Ibrahim in Tashahhud
when you are in last rakat then say Durude Ibrahim (durood shareef, darood pak) after reciting  Athahiyyaatu Lillahi Was Salawaatu  whether you have performed 2 rakat, 3 rakat or 4 rakat of any farz, sunnat, nafal namaz (salat, prayer, salah).
First part of Duroode -e- Ibrahim
Allaahumma Salleh Alaa Muhammadin Wa’alaa’ Aale Muhammadin —• Oh Allah, send grace and honour on Muhammad (PBUH) and On the family and true followers of Muhammad (PBUH).
Kama Sallaiyta Alaa Ibraheema Wa’ Alaa Aale Ibraheema —• just as you sent Grace and Honour on Ibrahim (a.s) and on the family and true followers of Ibrahim (a.s).
Innaka Hameedum Majeed —• Surely, you are praiseworthy, the Great.
Second part of Duroode -e- Ibrahim
Allaahumma Baarak Alaa Muhammadin Wa’ Alaa Aale Muhammadin —• Oh Allah, send your blessing on Muhammad (PBUH) and the true followers of Muhammad (PBUH),
Kama Baarakta Alaa Ibraheem Wa’ Alaa Aale Ibraheema —• as you sent blessings on Ibrahim (a.s) and on the family and true followers of Ibrahim (a.s).
Innaka Hameedum Majeed —• Surely, you are praiseworthy, the Great.
Learn Durood sharif for namaz
Step 10c: Duaa after DUROOD IBRAHIM
After durood-e- Ibrahim, we can read any Quranic Duaa such as:
1st Duaa: Rabbij’alnee muqeemas salaati wa mindhur-riy yatee —• Oh Lord, make me and my children keep up prayers.
rab-banaa watha qab-bal du’a, —• Our Lord, accept our prayer,
rab-ba nagh-firlee wali waaliday-ya —• Our Lord, forgive me and my parents
wa lil mu-mineena yawma yaqumul hisaab. —• and all the Believers on the Day of Judgement.
Sunni Namaz for Hanfi Muslim
2nd Duaa:Rabbana Aatina Fid Duniya Hasanataw Wafil Aakhirati Hasanataw—• “Our Lord, grant us the good of this world and that of the Hereafter
Wa Qina Adhaaban Naar. —• and save us from the torture of hell.”
Rabbana Aatina dua in namaz, salt, prayer, salah
3rd Duaa:allahumma inni a’udzubika min adzabil qabri……
allahumma inni a'udzubika min adzabil qabri
ALLAAHUMMA INNII A’UUZUBIKA MIN ‘AZAABIL QABRI, WA A’UUZUBIKA MIN FITNATIL MASIIHID DAJJAAL, WA A’UUZUBIKA MIN FITNATIL MAHYAA, WA FITNATIL MAMAATI ALLAAHUMMA INNII A’UUZUBIKA MINAL MAASAMI WAL MAGHRAM.”
4th Duaa: Allahumma inni zalamtu nafsi zulman kathiran —•“O Allah, I have greatly wronged myself
wa la ya’ghfirudh dhunuuba illa anta —• and You alone can forgive sins,
fa’ghfir li ma’ghfiratan min ‘indika warhamni —• so grant me forgiveness from you and have mercy on me.
innaka antal ‘ghafurur rahim. —• You are the forgiving and Merciful One.
Allahumma inni zalamtu nafsi zulman kathiran dua after durood e ibrahim in namaz, salat, prayer, salah

Step 11: Say Salam two times
After reading all masnoon duaa when you want to finish your namaz then say: Assalamu Alai’kumWarah’matullaah by looking at right shoulder and then then say agian by looking on left shoulder.
Assalamu Alai’kumWarah’matullaah —• “Peace and mercy of Allah be on you”.
Namaz with step by step guidance
Learn namaz all steps with hanfi method
Step 12: Say —• Allahu Akbar and astaghfirullah
After completing namaz, say Allahu Akbar 1 time then 3 times Astaghfirullah.
Note: Namaz is completed after performing 12 steps in order then you can read Islamic Duaas which our Beloved Holy Prophet (PBUH) used to read everyday after each Salat.
Dua Qunoot
Dua qunoot  to be recited in the last rakat of the Witr Prayer of Isha Salah( namaz, salat)
Qunoot
Dua al-Qunoot Transliteration:
Allah humma inna nast’eenuka wa nastaghfiruka wa nu’minu bika wa natawak-kalu ‘alayka wa nuthne ‘alayk-al khayr. Wa nashkuruka wa laaa nakfuruka wa nakhla’u wa natruku man-y yafjuruka. Allah humma iyyaka na’budu wa laka nusal-lee wa nasjudu wa ilayka nas’a wa nahfidu wa narju rahmataka wa nakhsha ‘azabaka inna ‘azabaka bil kuf-fari mulhiq.
Dua al-Qunoot Translation:
Oh Allah, we ask you for help and seek your forgiveness, and we believe in You and have trust in You, and we praise you in the best way and we thank You and we are not ungrateful to you, and we forsake and turn away from the one who disobeys you. O Allah, we worship You only and pray to You and prostrate ourselves before You, and we run towards You and serve You, and we hope to receive your mercy, and we fear your punishment. Surely, the disbelievers will receive your punishement.
Dua Qunoot Arabic in Witr:
doa-qunut with English translation
Dua Qunut (to be recited in Witr Prayer)
Dua Qunoot Transliteration:
Allah hum mahdinee feeman hadayta,
Wa ‘afinee feeman ‘afayta,
wata wal-lane feeman twal-layta
wa barik lee feema a’taita,
waqinee shar-ra ma qadayta,
fa-innaka taqdee wala yuqda ‘alayk,
innahu laa Yazil-lu man walayt,
wala ya’iz-zu man ‘adaita,
tabarakta rabbana wata ‘alaita,
nastaghfiruka wanatubu ilayka,
Wa sal-lal lahu alan-nabee.
Dua Qunoot Translation in English:
Oh Allah, make me among those whom You have guided,
and make me among those whom You have saved, and make
me among those whom You have chosen, and bless whatever
you have given me, and protect me from the evil which you have decreed; verily, You decide the things and nobody can decide against You; and none whom You have committed to Your care shall be humiliated and none whom You have taken as an enemy shall taste glory. You are blessed, our Lord, and Exalted, we ask for Your forgiveness and turn to You. Peace and mercy of Allah be upon the Prophet.