Sunday, May 29, 2011

How do I remove applications on Face Book?

How do I remove applications on FB?

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Log into your Facebook account. If you don't have a Facebook Account, creating one is easy, and anybody can sign up for one. In the upper righthand corner, click on "Settings" then "Account Settings".
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On the page that comes up, look for "Privacy". Click on the blue button that says "Manage" to the right.
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On the next page, click "Applications".
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On the next page that comes up, you will see "Privacy--> Applications". Under that, you will see "Overview/ Settings". Click on "Settings".
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Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your father

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Your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your father .

But its the mother who always suffers silently at our hands....


Abu Huraira reported that a person said: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) who amongst the people is most deserving of my good treatment? He said: Your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your father, then your nearest relatives according to the order (of nearness)

(Muslim Book 32, Number 6181) 


A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad about taking part in a military campaign (Jihaad). The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told that she was alive, the Prophet said: "(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet." (Al-Tirmidhi) Musnad Ahmad, Sunan An-Nasâ'i, Sunan Ibn Mâjah) 


Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (A.S.), the great-great-grandson of the Prophet Muhammad is reported to have quoted Imam 'Ali (A.S.) that, "disobedience to parents is a major sin." He also stated that, "if a person looks at the face of his or her parents with wrathful eyes, despite the fact that injustice was done to him or her by the parents, his or her salah (prayer) will not be accepted by God." 

According to one of the Hadith-e-Qudsi, the following is reported about the status of parents: 

"God has commanded that if anybody prays equal to the invocations performed by the prophets, such prayers will do no good if that person has been cursed by his or her parents."' 

It has also been related that the very first words which have been written on the Lauh-e-Mahfuz (The Heavenly Preserved Tablet) are: 

"I am God, and there is no deity except Me. I am pleased with those with whom their parents are pleased, and I am displeased with those with whom their parents are displeased." 

Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: "On the Day of Judgment, my person will not be seen by those who drank liquor, those who on hearing my name did not invoke the blessings of God on me, or those who were cursed and disowned by their parents." 



- Holy Qur'an, Abdullah Yusuf 'Ali's Translation 

- Bedtime Stories, by Peermohammed Ebrahim Trust 

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The command to be good to one's parents begins right from the Qur'an. Allah says: 

"Worship God and join not any partners with Him; and be kind to your parents..." [Noble Quran 4:36] 

The mention of servitude to parents follows immediately after servitude to God. This is repeated throughout the Qur'an. 

"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility and say, "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." [Noble Quran 17:23-24]

 The great scholar, Abu al-Faraj Ibn Al-Jawzî (d. 1201CE) explained: 

To be kind to one's parents is: to obey them when they order you to do something, unless it is something which Allah has forbidden; to give priority to their orders over voluntary acts of worship; to abstain from that which they forbid you to do; to provide for them; to serve them; to approach them with gentle humility and mercy; not to raise your voice in front of them; nor to fix your glance on them; nor to call them by their names; and to be patient with them. (Ibn al-Jawzî, Birr al-Wâlidayn) 

The Qur'an emphasizes the great struggles the mother goes through for her child, to highlight the need for one to reciprocate their parents sacrifice for them: 

"And We have enjoined on man [to be good] to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and his weaning was over two years. Be thankful to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination."[Noble Quran 31:14] 

The renowned exegete, Shaykh Abdur-Rahman As-Sa'di (d. 1956), says about this verse: 

{And to your parents} meaning, be kind to your parents, shower on them love, affection and piety, both in words and deeds, treat them with tender humility, provide for them and never harm them verbally nor physically. [...] Then, Allah mentions the reason why we should be kind to our parents, when He says {His mother bore him in travail upon travail}, that is, the mother bore constant suffering; in pain and hardship from the first moment she felt the child moving in her womb to the worst pangs during the time of delivery. And {his weaning is for two years}, that is, during these two years the mother breast-feeds her child and looks after him/her. So after all the years of suffering, hardship, love and care, could we not, at least, compensate our mothers for what they have done for us and pay them back their rights? (Taysîr al-Karîm ar-Rahmân fî Tafsîr al-Kalâm al-Manân)

 The Qur'an repeats its mention of the struggles of the mother in yet another passage: 

"And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, "My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims." [Noble Quran 46:15] 

In connection to this passage, the late Grand Mufti of Pakistan, Shaykh Muhammad Shafy (d. 1976) wrote: 

Mother has more rights than father

Although the first part of this verse is a command to do good to both the parents, the second sentence refers only to the hardships suffered by the mother, because they are unavoidable, and no child can be born without them. Every mother has to go through the problems of pregnancy and severe pains of delivery. As against this, it is not necessary for a father that he suffers any hardship in bringing up and educating the child, if he can afford to pay somebody else for these services. This is why the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) has given more rights to the mother than anybody else. According to a hadîth he has said, 

"Do good to and serve your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then the near relatives and then those who come after them."[Mazhari] 

"And his carrying and his weaning is in thirty months"[Noble Quran 46:15] 

This sentence too describes the hardships suffered by the mother for her baby. It points out that even after suffering hardships during pregnancy and the severe labor pains, the mother does not get respite from toils, because the natural food of the infants is in her breasts, and she has to suckle them. (Shafy, Ma'âriful Qur'ân [Eng. trans.], vol. 7, pp. 795-796) 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) continually used to remind his followers of the status of the mother and the obligation of being good to one's parents. The following narration is a beautiful example of the noble position of the mother: 

A man came to the Prophet and said: O Messenger of Allah! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me? He replied: "Your mother." The man asked: Then who? So he replied: "Your mother." The man then asked: Then who? So the Prophet replied again: "Your mother." The man then asked: Then who? So he replied: "Then your father." (Sahîh Bukhârî 5971 and Sahîh Muslim 7/2) 

Commenting on this hadith, Shaykh Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi notes: 

This hadith confirms that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) gave precedence to kind treatment of one's mother over kind treatment of one's father (Al-Hashimi, The Ideal Muslimah, IIPH 2005, p. 165) 

Likewise, the late Grand Mufti of Saudi Arabia, Shaykh Abdul-Azîz Ibn Bâz (d. 1999) comments on this hadith saying: 

So this necessitates that the mother is given three times the like of kindness and good treatment than the father. (Majmoo' Fataawaa wa Maqalat Mutanawwi'ah) 

He also writes: 

The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder - responsibilities and difficulties some of which not even a man bears. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father.[...] And I have no doubt that my mother - may Allah shower His mercy upon her - had a tremendous effect upon me, in encouraging me to study; and she assisted me in it. May Allah greatly increase her reward and reward her with the best of rewards for what she did for me. (Majmoo' Fatawa wa Maqalat Mutanawwi'ah) 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) also said in a famous narration:

 'Paradise lies at the feet of your mother' [Musnad Ahmad, Sunan An-Nasâ'i, Sunan Ibn Mâjah] 

What can be greater evidence of honoring women than this? Islam has effectively placed the ultimate reward for human beings in their devotion to their mothers. 

Shaykh Ibrahîm Ibn Sâlih Al-Mahmud writes: 

Treat your mother with the best companionship, then your father; because paradise is under the mother's feet. Never disobey your parents, nor make them angry, otherwise you will live a miserable life in this world and the hereafter, and your children will treat you likewise. Ask your parents gently if you need something. Always thank them if they give it to you, and excuse them if they do not, and never insist on a matter if they refuse to give you something. (Al-Mahmoud, How to be kind to your Parents, p.40) 

It is related from Talhah ibn Mu'âwiyah as-Salamî who said: 

I came to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I want to perform Jihad in the way of Allah. He asked, "Is your mother alive?" I replied, "Yes." The Prophet then said: "Cling to her feet, because paradise is there." (at-Tabarânî 

Shaykh Nidhaam Sakkijihaa comments: 

Cling to her feet means to submit yourself to her, be close to her, protect her, serve her because in this is Paradise and with her satisfaction you will enjoy the good blessings of Allah. (Sakkijihaa, Honoring the Parents, p. 52) 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) showed us the importance of serving one's parents in the following narration reported by Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud: 

I asked the Prophet, 'O Messenger of Allah, what is the best deed?' He replied 'Prayer offered on time.' I asked, 'What is next in goodness?' He replied, 'To be dutiful and kind to one's parents.' I further asked, 'What is next in goodness?' He replied, 'Jihad in the Allah's cause. [Sahîh Bukhârî, Sahîh Muslim] 

Just as the Prophet said that kindness to one's parents was of the best deeds, he also said that disobedience to them was amongst the major sins: 

"The greatest sins are to associate partners in worship with Allah, to be undutiful or unkind to one's parents, to kill a soul forbidden by Allah and to bear false witness." [Sahîh Bukhârî]

 Even after the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), the Muslim scholars continued to stress the importance of being dutiful to one's mother. By examining the conduct and teachings of the early Muslim scholars, one may see how the direct recipients of the Islamic message understood the command to be dutiful to one's parents. Their behavior towards their parents shows Muslims how one is to implement the teachings of the Prophet on honoring parents. 

Abdullah Ibn Abbâs (d. 687CE), a companions of the Prophet and a great scholar of Islam, considered kind treatment of one's mother to be the best deed for strengthening or rectifying one's relation with God. He said: 

I know of no other deed that brings people closer to Allah than kind treatment and respect towards one's mother. [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Bukhârî 1/45] 

An even more powerful example is found in the statement of another one of the Prophet's companions, Abdullah Ibn 'Umar (d. 692CE), who was also a great scholar of Islam. It has been related that:Abdullah Ibn 'Umar saw a Yemeni man performing Tawâf (circumambulating the Ka'bah) while carrying his mother on his back. This man said to Abdullah Ibn 'Umar, "I am like a tame camel for her! I have carried her more than she carried me. Do you think I have paid her back, O Ibn 'Umar?" Abdullah Ibn 'Umar replied, "No, not even one contraction!!" [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Bukhârî 1/62] 

SubhânAllah (Glory be to God)! The efforts of a man who carries his mother on his back while performing tawâf cannot even repay his mother for a single contraction that she went through for him. Wise indeed was Ibn 'Umar's reply to this man to show him how massively indebted he was to his mother. This is the tremendous value and prestigious position of mothers in Islam! 

Yet another example is found in the following prophecy of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him):There will come to you with reinforcements from Yemen a man called Uways ibn 'Âmir of the clan of Murâd from the tribe of Qaran. He had leprosy but has been cured of it except for a spot the size of a coin. He has a mother and he has always treated her with kindness and respect. If he prays to Allah, Allah will fulfill his wish. If you can ask him to pray for forgiveness for you, then do so. [Sahîh Muslim 16/95] 

Indeed, later on 'Umar ibn al-Khattâb met Uways who was exactly as the Prophet described, and upon 'Umar's request Uways prayed for him. Commenting on this narration, Shaykh Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimî writes: 

What a high status Uways reached by virtue of his kindness and respect towards his mother, so that the Prophet recommended his Sahabah [companions] to seek him out and ask him to pray for them!All of this indicates the high status to which Islam has raised the position of motherhood, and given the mother precedence over the father. At the same time, Islam has given importance to both parents, and has enjoined kindness and respect to both. (Al-Hashimi, The Ideal Muslimah, IIPH 2005, p. 167)


So great was the Islamic emphasis on parents, that the Muslims considered a great opportunity to attain paradise in service to one's mother. Iyâs Ibn Mu'âwiyah was a famous Islamic scholar from the second generation of Muslims. When his mother died, Iyâs Ibn Mu'âwiyah cried. He was asked, "Why do you cry?" He said, "I used to have two gates open to Paradise, now one of them is closed."


Zayn al-'Abidîn (d. 713CE) was the great grandson of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and also a renowned scholar. He used to treat his mother with so much kindness and love as seen in the following narration:Once he was asked, 'You are the most kind person to his mother, yet we have never seen you eating with her from a single dish.' He replied, 'I fear that my hand would take the what her eyes have already seen in the dish, and then I would be disobeying her'. [At-Tartushi, Birr al-Wâlidayn]In other words, he was so careful not to disobey his mother that he would even avoid eating out of the same plate as her; He thought that she would see a morsel and intend to take it, but before she did he might unknowingly take that same morsel and eat it. This is how careful he was to obey his mother in the most minute details.Another early Islamic scholar, Sa'îd Ibn Al-Musayyib (d. 709CE), was asked about the meaning of the verse "but address them in terms of honor" (17:23). Sa'îd Ibn Al-Musayyib replied: 

It means that you should address them as a servant addresses his master. 

Muhammad Ibn Sirîn (d. 729CE) used to speak to his mother in a very soft voice, out of respect for her. He was also often seen in the company of his mother and looking after her. (Ibn al-Jawzî, Birr al-Wâlidayn)All that has preceded shows how the status of mothers - and consequently that of women - is elevated to the highest position in Islam. The honor Islam has given to mothers is beyond that found in any other religion, ideology or culture. This is clear proof of the lofty status of Muslim Women.Source:

Economic Independence and Education of Muslim




Economic Independence and Education of Muslim

Khadija Ra : The first to accept Islam,a successful business woman a supporter to the early development of Islam,a philanthropist,I.e the first wife of the prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).
Fatima Ra : daughter of the prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).an obedient wife and caring mother,a nurse and a doctor Who treated the injured and wounded at the battle field during the time of prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wassallam).

Islam grants woman equal rights to contract, to enterprise, to earn and possess independently. Her life, her property, her honor are as sacred as those of man. If she commits any offense, her penalty is no less or more than of man's in a similar case. If she is wronged or harmed, she gets due compensations equal to what a man in her position would get (2:178;4:45, 92-93).

Islam does not state these rights in a statistical form and then relax. It has taken all measures to safeguard them and put them into practice as integral articles of Faith. It never tolerates those who are inclined to prejudice against woman or discrimination between man and woman. Time and again, the Qur'an reproaches those who used to believe woman to be inferior to man (16:57-59, 62; 42:47-59; 43:15-19; 53:21-23).

She is equal to man in the pursuit of education and knowledge. When Islam enjoins the seeking of knowledge upon Muslims, it makes no distinction between man and woman. Almost fourteen centuries ago,Muhammad declared that the pursuit of knowledge is incumbent on every Muslim male and female. This declaration was very clear and was implemented by Muslims throughout history.

She is entitled to freedom of expression as much as man is. Her sound opinions are taken into consideration and cannot be disregarded just because she happen to belong to the female sex. It is reported in the Qur'an and history that woman not only expressed her opinion freely but also argued and participated in serious discussions with the Prophet himself as well as with other Muslim leaders (Qur'an, 58:1-4; 60:10-12). Besides there were occasions when Muslim women expressed their views on legislative matters of public interest, and stood in opposition to the Caliphs, who then accepted the sound arguments of these women. A specific example took place during the Califate of Umar Ibn al-Khattab.

Islamic sources do not prevent Muslim women from working and receiving wages. In the agricultural sec­tor of traditional Islamic society women always worked with men and they were very active in many of the arts and crafts. Islam gave women com­plete economic independence even from their husbands, and over the ages many women have also engaged in trade and been merchants, as was the Prophet's wife Khadija.

Likewise, there is no objection in principle to Muslim women participating in politics. Before modern times there were even occasionally Muslim queens who ruled indepen­dently and many others who exerted great political power behind the scenes. In fact, Zainab (the granddaughter of the Prophet) played a major political role in early Islamic history, as did a number of other women.

The wife is financially independent from the husband. Islam has protected woman’s independent personality and ensured her full capability to be financially independent from her husband.  Muslim women have the right to earn money, own property, to enter into legal contracts and to manage all of her assets in any way she pleases. She can run her own business and no one has any claim on her earnings including her husband. The Quran states: "and in no wise covet those things in which Allah hath bestowed his gifts more freely on some of you than on others: to men is allotted what they earn and to woman what they earn: but ask Allah of his bounty for Allah hath full knowledge of all things." (4:32). The woman has the right to work provided that her work does not make her ignore her main job as a wife and a mother.  if she has the skills to work outside the home for the good of the community, she may do so as long as her family obligations are met. Lots of Muslim women worked in the time of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, some even fought with the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, in wars like Umm Umara, may Allah be pleased with her, who fought with the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, in the battle of Uhud. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was encouraging her during the fight and would tell her : “Who could endure what you endure Umm Umara”
During the time of Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, a lady, Al Shafa bint Abdullah Ibn abd-Shams, was assigned the position of official business transactor/manager of the market of Medina...

The husband is financially fully responsible for his wife. Poor or rich, her living costs are estimated in proportion to her husband's financial ability. The Qur'an puts it thus:" Let the rich man spend according to his means". (Surah 65:7).
He is obliged to provide her with food, clothes, a place to live and medical treatment according to his environment, conditions and income. Muslim scholars said that if a man does not support his wife financially then she has the right for a divorce.
The husband is not to stay away from his wife or keep his wife in a state of suspense, whether at home or abroad, for a protracted period of time except with her consent. Allah said: "Turn not away (from your wife) altogether, so as to leave her hanging. If you come to a friendly understanding and practice self-restraint, then Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Merciful" (4:129). Protracted separation (6 months or more in the Shafi`i school) without prior or subsequent arrangement with the wife, whether the husband is away willingly or unwillingly (for example due to war, imprisonment, or illness) is sufficient grounds for her to obtain divorce from the judge.
Caring for one's wife's sexual fulfillment is an obligation of religion. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, warned against rushing to gratify one's pleasure and forgetting that of one's wife. He also disliked that the husband should quickly withdraw from his wife afterwards, as it is a strain upon the wife. If she asks for intercourse, he should not refuse.
It is important that a wife recognizes the authority of her husband in the house. He is the head of the household, and she is supposed to listen to him. But the husband should also use his authority with respect and kindness towards his wife. If there arises any disagreement or dispute among them, then it should be resolved in a peaceful manner. Spouses should seek the counsel of their elders and other respectable family members and friends to batch up the rift and solve the differences.
12 Rights of a Muslim Wife upon Her Husband

1. To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy.
2. To be kind to her. The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.”
3. Not to harm her.
4. To be loving to her,
5. That the men must not curse or swear at his wife, or insult her appearance.
6. A man must not boycott her and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home.
7. A man should not expose the secrets of his wife “Verily among the worst people before Allaah on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets.” [Muslim, Ibn Abee Shaybah, Ahmad and others].
8. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings. A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good. To look only good in her.
9. That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her.
10. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. It is said that some men have the best manners out in the market , but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion! Kind to strange women in the markets but not to his wife in the home. The best of you are the best of you to your wives. There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Combine the two , and that is good.
11. That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire. O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed]angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
12. That the man should have some type of jealousy for his wife. Jealousy of protecting her from evil, not for her to be exposed to strange men , not for her to speak to strange men etc. but not the abusive jealousy…

Muslims have deviated from the path shown to them by their religion and adopted the path of self-interest and evil. On the other hand, all good values that were propagated by Prophet Muhammad (SAW) are adopted and implemented by today’s western world.

    The best guidance is that of Muhammad (PBUH) and that of the rightly guided caliphs and companions.
    The onlooker would find that women were not imprisoned nor kept apart as has happened in the ages of the backwardness of Muslims.
    Women used to attend the Jamaa (congregational) prayers and the Friday prayers in the Mosque of the Prophet. The prophet encouraged them to take their places in the rows behind the men. The further they could stand the better, as he feared that something would show of men's bodies, for most of them did not know shorts/trousers. There was no separation between men and women of cement, wood, cloth or anything else.
    At the beginning men and women used the same door. When this caused crowding on entry and exit the prophet said: "If you could keep this door for women." They made that door for women and it became known up until today as the door of women.
    Women at the time of the prophet attended the Jumaah prayers and listened to the speech. One of them memorized Surat 'Qaaf' from the prophet's own voice as a result of hearing him say it from the Friday minbar.

      Women attended lessons of knowledge, given by the prophet, with men. They asked about issues related to their religion that many women today would be embarrassed to ask. Aisha praised the Ansaari women saying that the shyness did not stop them from understanding their religion. They asked about the major ritual impurity, sexual maturity, washing, the period, sexual maturity as well as other such things.
      It was not enough for women to attend. They wanted the prophet to themselves and asked him to make one day for them where men would not outnumber them. So the prophet dedicated a day for them and gave them wisdom and commandments.
      Women's actions went further and they participated in the war effort to provide services for the army and the fighters in the ways that they are capable of and are good at: nursing, first aid, caring for the injured and wounded, in addition to other services such as cooking, giving water and preparing what the fighters would need of civil matters.
      Om Atiyya said: "I took part with the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) in seven battles. I would stay behind in the camp of men, cook their food, treat the wounded and nurse the sick." - narrated by Muslim.

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There is no proof which says that a woman cannot become a doctor or a teacher or that she can't study. In fact some of the Sahaabiyyaat were "doctors" who treated the sick and wounded during and after battles in the Prophet's time ﷺ. Aa'ishah, Umm Salamah were among the top teachers of their time, Aa'ishah being the forth most prolific narrator of Hadeeths among all of the Sahabahs. They had female and male students. Going to an All girls college is best, but if it is not available, and if her faith is strong, she may go to a mixed school due to the necessity of gaining knowledge to be able to fulfill the needs of the Muslim community. For example, every woman who is forced to go to a male gynecologist due to the absence of female gynecologists is excused but the community carries the sin for not providing female gynecologists for her. And the males who control the educational process carry the greater portion of the sin. Similarly is the case for dentists, and other female related medical needs. 
The first woman and the youngest person – at 36 -to ever make French Minister of Education. As well as first Muslim.Meet Najat Belkacem Who Has Gone From A shepherd Girl In Morocco To The Education Minister In France!

Darul-Uloom Deoband backs appointment of women Qazis

shaista amber,President, AIMWPLB

“Becoming a Qazi is a matter of expertise, knowledge and training. Any man or woman who fulfils the criteria of knowledge and training can become a Qazi,
“Women in Islam have all the right to become religious scholars. They can become a Qazi and a Mufti. Islam doesn’t discriminate between men and women when it comes to gathering knowledge,” Maulana Usmani said.
Arguing that there was nothing in Islam that prohibits women from becoming a Qazi or a Mufti, Maulana Usmani said those who protest against women becoming Qazis don’t do justice with the rights Islam bestows on women.
'Islam empowers women'
“Islam empowers women through knowledge. Nobody has any right to prevent women from becoming a Qazi or a Mufti,” he said.


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our wives belong to Allah and not our properties that we own the way we own cars and houses. Our wives are amaana, a trust for us to look after to gain Allah’s pleasure. Any man who doesn’t fulfil this trust doesn’t deserve a wife.

Haleh Banani has a Master degree in Clinical Psychology with 18 years of experience working with couples and individuals. She was a featured expert on Al-Jazeera international, Huda TV, Islamic Open University, Mercy Mission and Bayinnah TV. Haleh is an instructor for Ilmflix and Qalam Institute. She was the first female to host a program for Al-Fajr TV called “With Haleh” which combines the principles of psychology and Islam to help people reach their full potential and overcome their challenges. She does skype therapy sessions with people from around the world saving marriages, building self-esteem & helping individuals in all their relationships. Haleh is an internationally published writer and counselor for the website She received her ijaza for the recitation of the Quran in Egypt. She was recently given the Icon Award representing America in Malaysia for her contribution in psychology & Islam. She has been married for Alhamdulillah 19 years with 3 kids ages 16, 13 & 10.

Preventing girls from education is against Islam: Ayatollah Khamenei,IRAN

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Daughter of Imam, Nida broke all CBSE records with 99% in English, seeks help

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Thursday, May 19, 2011

Surf the web as it was - BETA version!

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FOREPLAY TIPS - Sexual foreplay-Tips to help arouse her


Sexual foreplay-Tips to help arouse her

The truth of the matter is far more women receive erotic or sensual massages than the public is aware of.
This massage can focus on certain areas  like the breasts, lower abdomen, inner thighs near his/her private parts.
 Logically, anything that increases blood flow to the pelvis increases sensitivity, arousal.
First Back massage:"At first you're on your stomach, so they're just massaging your back, Lightly caress your S.O.'s neck, shoulders, arms, back, and buttocks with your fingertips  for at least five minutes.
Second Front Massage:" Then they turn you over. [My masseur] started massaging my breasts. My nipples got erect, so that must have sent him a signal. Nipple play is also important. "Nipple stimulation is processed in the same region of the brain as touch to the clitoris and penis, so lightly stimulating the area around the nipple (the areola) on both men and women can be very stimulating," says Laino. "It will increase blood flow to both the nipples and to the genital area. And don't forget the abs! This is a hot spot for both men and women—especially the area between the belly button and genitals, says Laino. "Massaging this area can make the pelvic floor muscles contract," she says. That sends blood flow straight to the genitals, she says. 
 He started rubbing me on the pressure points around my hips. Giving his or her inner thighs a rubdown. "The inner thighs, for ladies and gents, are very sensitive because they're so close to the genitals. He never actually touched my clitoris or vagina; it was just all around the area.  This guy was a master of temptation. He would get oh so close, closer... and then back away.
 My legs spread apart almost involuntarily as I waited for him to start the sexy part.
Ok, now that your S.O. is primed and ready, onto the good stuff:
For Him
Warm up some massage oil by rubbing it with both hands, then spread it all over his penis and testicles. Place one hand on the shaft of his penis, and start stroking it in an up and down motion, says Cadell. Meanwhile, use the other hand to gently roll his testicles in your palm. Do this in slow-mo for at least a few minutes.
Next, gently rub his penis with both hands as if rubbing a stick to make a fire, then gradually segue into a corkscrew motion, where one hand twists up while the other twists down.
Now concentrate on massaging his penis from top to bottom, covering the head and sliding your hands down to the base—one after another—in a fluid motion. "Do this for about 10 strokes and don't be surprised if he suddenly climaxes because this stroke makes him feel like he's inside a wet vagina," says Cadell. Me. Ow.
For Her
"On the female genitals, it's best to switch to a water-based lubricant because if oil gets inside the vagina, it can cause irritation," says Cadell. Make sure to warm the lube with your hands first before placing them in her vagina.  
Nearly 50 percent of men and women who have used lube say that it makes it easier to have an orgasm
Start by focusing on the vulva, which is the outside visible area of the vagina, says Cadell. Gently rub the lube around her vaginal lips all the way down to her anus.
Gently part her outer lips with both of your thumbs, caressing them in circular motions for at least two minutes. Slide your thumbs up and down her outer lips until they're spread apart, then do the same with her inner lips. "The inner lips are more sensitive, so use less pressure," says Cadell. "Watch for her body language and for the swelling of her vaginal lips, which is a natural progression when a woman gets aroused."
Finally, gently slide your thumb and forefinger up and down the sides of the clitoris for about 10 strokes. Massage the head of the clitoris in circular motions using your forefinger and thumb. "You may feel it growing as it becomes more excited, and with the clitoris containing about 8,000 nerve fibers, don't be surprised if she has a body-melting, earth-shattering orgasm," says Cadell. Game. Set. Match.
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16 New Ways to Touch Her Vagina
There's a little flap of skin that covers her clitoris when she's not fully aroused—and it's begging to be played with. "The clitoral hood is actually an extension of the inner lips," says Fulbright. "It can be its own feel-good spot." Early on in your encounter—before she's gotten so turned on that her hood retracts—give the hot spot aon her vagina a little love: Trace her inner labia upwards until you find the fold just above her clitoris, and stroke it with your fingertips, making sure your digits are sufficiently slick with lube. When she's ready for direct clitoral contact, "you can use your thumb to push that skin up a little bit toward her belly button," says Brandon. 
When it comes to G-spot stimulation, most guys know one classic technique: Insert a finger inside her vagina, palm up, and use a come-hither movement to stimulate her. But what if that doesn't work? Don't give up your search for her hidden pleasure zone just yet. "The G-spot is not necessarily right in the middle of that front wall [of the vagina]," Fulbright says. "It might be a little more to one side or a little lower." Her advice: Using at least two fingers, massage as much of the region as you can comfortably reach—and make sure she's already wet before you work your way in. "If she's excited, the area is a little raised and rough," says Fulbright. "If she's not aroused enough, it's going to be almost impossible to find."
Her outer labia may not be as sensitive as the rest of her lady parts—and that means it's a prime place to start when you're warming her up for an orgasm. When you're making out, slip a hand down south and simply cup her vagina, pressing lightly. "This starts the blood flow and begins the process of arousal," says Brandon. "It's a gentle way to bring her into the experience."
First, an anatomy lesson: Atop her pubic bone, there's a mound of fatty tissue where her pubic hair grows called the mons pubis. "When you play with the mons pubis, you can indirectly stimulate the clitoris," says Fulbright. To wake up the region, use the heel of your hand to press downward on the mound, in the direction of her clitoris.
Before you part the outer lips of her vagina, give them a little attention. "Touching the outer labia isn't going to stimulate the clitoris in the same way the inner lips do, because they're not connected," says Fulbright. That said, taking your time before touching her clit can do wonders for her arousal—so press her labia majora between your thumb and index finger, rubbing back and forth with a gentle massaging motion, then gently tug her lips upward. If she doesn't shave, you can even lightly pull at her pubic hair, Fulbright suggests.
As tempting as it is to race to her clitoris, tease her a little before touching down. First, apply a little lube—hint: simply dip a digit into her vagina—to the padded part of your finger, and circle her clitoris, applying a firm, consistent pressure. "The circling motion is one of the most popular with women during masturbation," says Fulbright.
If your girlfriend prefers deep penetration, she probably enjoys the sensation of cervical contact—and your penis isn't the only part of your body that can reach it. "When she's excited, the cervix does pull back some," says Brandon. "But the typical vagina is not that long." So insert your finger until you can't go any further, and gently massage her cervix, applying more pressure only if she responds with pleasure. "It can be really, really sensitive, so try it gently," Brandon warns.
Stick with your standard way of stimulating her—the one that really gets her going—but switch up the position. "It will feel different because a woman's body is so supremely sensitive that these little shifts can be pretty dramatic to her," says Brandon. "She's also going to have a different emotional reaction to what you're doing." In other words, if she's normally lying on her back when you get her off with an orgasm, trying the same technique on all fours can feel more animalistic. So get creative: Have her lean against a wall, bend over the kitchen counter, or stand up straight—then execute the move she loves best.
Unless you're a high-school boy, you've learned by now that fingering a woman—just gliding in and out—doesn't do much for her. But that doesn't mean hands-off altogether: "Use two or three fingers to work your way in and out, but make sure you're not just going up and down—firmly rub against the lower vaginal canal," says Fulbright. You can even linger in the opening of her vagina, moving your fingers in a circular motion, without ever taking them out completely. "Most of the nerve endings are in the lower third of her vagina," says Brandon. "Women like to feel really full at the opening."
Place your index finger on one side of her clitoris, your middle finger on the other side, and pretend you're playing the piano, going back and forth, from side to side, suggests Fulbright. Rhythmic motions are typically the most pleasurable ones for women—and stimulating the sensitive skin next to her clitoris is an easy way to build arousal and anticipation for an orgasm, she says. Eventually, you can move one finger so it's on top of her clitoris itself for a more intense version of this move.
This trick gives whole new meaning to the cowgirl position: Have your partner sit on top of your inner arm, so her vulva is resting on your wrist and lower forearm. "Place your hand between her legs and cup her butt," says Fulbright. Then have her grind against your arm, and once she's established a rhythm, move your arm to match the pace and intensity she prefers. "You're able to touch a lot more surface area—it allows the whole area to come alive, instead of just one particular spot," she says. Plus, the vaginal stimulation tends to be less direct—and therefore more tolerable for super-sensitive gals.
When you're warming her up, graze your whole hand down the length of her vulva, using long, sweeping strokes. Keep it fleeting—don't worry about hitting all her nooks and crannies along the way. "If you're dipping inside, it's harder to make things rhythmic and smooth," says Fulbright. "There's one thing that women tell me gets them off: being rhythmic and consistent.
Use the thumb and index finger of one hand to spread her labia, and use your other hand to stimulate her clitoris, suggests Fulbright. Not only will opening her up give you better access to the pleasure zones of her vagina, it will make her feel a little vulnerable—which can be highly arousing.
Yes, you're eager to strip her down, but leaving her panties on can add a little pleasurable friction to your touch. (It's also great for a woman who is highly sensitive and prefers more indirect contact.) The ideal scenario: She's wearing satin panties, not cotton, which will easily glide across her genitals as you stimulate her, says Fulbright. Once she's fully aroused, continue the action by pushing her panties aside, instead of removing them, Brandon suggests. "That has the high-school feel to it—'I'm doing something wrong because my clothes are still on,' " she says. Admit it: That's hot.
Watching her masturbate is the ultimate way to learn what she likes—but that level of vulnerability can be pretty intimidating for some women. So put her hand on top of yours, and try this line: "Show me what you like, baby." "Do this in a sexy way—not an 'I'm confused, help me out,' kind of way," says Brandon. Let her guide your hand—and be sure to make mental notes along the way to her orgasm.

The classic side-to-side, up-and-down stimulation is undeniably awesome—and an almost surefire way to make her climax with an orgasm. But that's really only hitting a portion of her clitoris. Brandon suggests lightly pinching it, then rubbing it in a circular motion between your fingers, as if you were wadding up a piece of gum. That way, you're touching her hot spot from all angles, while also applying pressure. It's the recipe for an amazing orgasm.

Men, to experience and share great sex with your wife, be sure to use some of these sexual foreplay tips. There is an art to foreplay. Don’t just grab and squeeze, or head straight for her privates.

Foreplay is not about...
1.             Kissing
2.             Breasts and
3.             Intercourse .... all in five minutes!
In actuality, foreplay is really about courting and wooing your wife’s sensual responses and sexual arousal.
Before we get into the tips and suggestions, let’s review the all important basics of foreplay:

1.             Foreplay is part of the preparation phase of lovemaking.
2.             Foreplay is focusing on helping your wife come to sexual arousal.
3.             Foreplay must not be rushed. Spend at least 20 to 30 minutes on foreplay.
Okay, let’s get to the “mechanics”of foreplay…

Sexual Foreplay Tips to Use BEFORE You’re in the Bedroom

·                     kiss her gently in public
·                     touch her face and stroke her hair
·                     tell her you love her
·                     hold hands or put your arm around her in public
·                     tell her she’s beautiful
Tips to Use When WARMING UP!

·                     slowly start undressing her
·                     give her tender kisses on the lips
·                     gently stroke her face
·                     take time to give her a full body or shoulder massage
·                     gently caress all parts of her body (not just the typical “sexual” parts)
·                     whisper and tell her how beautiful she is and how good she feels
·                     kiss her softly all over her body
·                     interlace your fingers with hers
·                     caress her tummy (don’t tickle though!)
·                     touch and fondle her
·                     keep talking about how much you love her (unless you’re kissing)
·                     try to discover new touch points on her body that are sensitive and bring sexual arousal
·                     keep looking at her
Foreplay Tips to Use as Things GET HOT!

·                     begin more passionate kissing (don’t underestimate this tip!)
·                     start faster stroking and caressing of her body
·                     include full body embracing
·                     start oral stimulation such as licking and sucking
·                     begin to caress her inner thighs
·                     continue telling her all the ways you think she’s gorgeous and how much she excites you
·                     squeeze and stroke her body
FINAL Sexual Foreplay Tips

·                     move your hands from the top of her body all the way down until they reach between her legs
·                     listen to your wife’s verbal cues… is she feeling discomfort or pleasure?
·                     use lubricant to begin stroking her vagina and clitoris
·                     gently massage her outer vaginal lips
·                     pay attention to your wife’s body language; is she beginning to respond?
·                     ask your wife to tell you what feels good to her
·                     reach up to her breasts
·                     kiss her passionately all over her body
·                     massage her inner thighs
·                     stimulate her clitoris until she lets you know she’s ready for intercourse or ready to orgasm
·                     don’t forget to keep talking to her; tell her how much you enjoy her body
Using these foreplay ideas will bring great benefits to you and your wife’s sexual relationship including:

·                     increased awareness of your wife’s body and how she responds
·                     great orgasm experience for both you and her
·                     closer emotional intimacy as you focus on your wife’s sexual needs
So, remember:
1.             Start Slow and Gentle
2.             Speak Lovingly
3.             Don’t Rush
4.             Use Lubricant
5.             Better Discover How She Responds


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