Bring 'sex' back into your marriage!
by the time the two of you hit the sack, you are ready to doze off. Very often, sex takes a backseat. Where previously you couldn't keep your hands off each other when together, now you see the frequency of sex dwindling. But have you ever analysed the reasons for a sharp fall in sex?
1.Domestic issues:After marriage, domestic issues consume a lot of your time which normally you would have spent with your partner.Plan a time purely for both of you as you have done in the early days of your marriage.Attach fun activities to your domestic chores. It will take off the boredom."
2. Work pressure:"It is important to prioritise to be able to manage everything. Do not try to be perfect and too harsh on yourself. It will only stress you out. Sharing your work woes helps you connect and distress." Talk to each other everything thats on your mind.
3.Kids demand attention:This is the obvious, but deserves mentioning. Kids have a huge affect on a couple's sex life. "Nothing goes as per plan when kids are concerned. On days when we plan to have sex, sometimes my daughter falls ill or she insists on sleeping with me," cribs housewife Namita Kapoor. Post pregnancy depression is another reason that hits women's libido. Legal executive Vishal Khattar shares, "My wife has put me last on her priority list. It's only the child who consumes her thoughts all the time. I am so scared to talk about sex."
Gynecologist Anjali Kumar explains, "Post partum depression is common amongst women. She feels vulnerable and drained out all the time due to the hormonal changes in her body. She's learning how to rebalance her life so it's normal to see her behave erratically. Men need to be patient because she has put her needs as well down on the list. He must make her feel beautiful and wanted and understand her emotions."
4.Boredom settles in:The seven year itch isn't a myth. There are many couples who suffer from boredom. Content writer Dipti Das
says, "I am married for three years and we have started taking each other for granted. Sex has totally taken a backseat. Even on nights when I feel like having sex, I am too weighed to ask. So I simply drop the idea and hit the bed." It's important to give yourself a break once in a while. Share a hobby or start doing some fun activity together.Watch a movie together on saturday nights.
5. 'Touch' plays a vital role in upping the sex urge." GIVE HER A FULL BODY MASSAGE.
6.Dress up: Now that you are married and you have seen each other in your worst moments, you don't need to take that image for granted. Surprise your partner. Women, invest in sexy lingerie if you have not invested in one for sometime. Men, do not wear your ugly boxers or faded T-shirts. Replace them with attractive night wear.
7.Make your bedroom a romantic nook: This is a quick fix. Clean the mess and turn your bedroom into a pleasure paradise. Spread scented candles in your room and play it up with aromatic fragrances. Buy bedroom accessories in bright, sexy colours like red, pink and purple. Install a nice music system that can, at the touch of a button play some romantic numbers.
8.Spice up your bathroom: Spray exotic fragrances in your bathroom. Install bright shower curtains and get expensive creams, lotions and bathing gels that you can indulge in before hitting the bead. It will definitely turn on your man or woman.
9.Shed those extra pounds: Just because you are married and settled doesn't give you the right to let your health routine go for a toss. Indulge in a regular workout to get an envious body that your partner feels attracted to. He/she will soon start admiring your body.
10.Pay enough attention: Stop being a couch potato or a workaholic when at home. Dump your remote control and laptop and indulge in some pleasure moments with your spouse. Remember, communication is the key. The farther you let yourself go, the distance will keep on increasing. Try a new activity or challenge your spouse - you may see them in a new light.
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